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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Since I was thirteen me and my mum have had a really close relationship, we have been through so much together and always supported eachother. Since I have been with my boyfriend (18 months) she has isolated. I still live at home with her, my dad and my sister but my mum is constantly moaning, controlling and putting me down. My dad agrees with me and we have tried to talk to her so many times but she never listens. I feel like I am ready to move out because she is constantly trying to control my life, if things arent done her way she gets so angry and shes always putting me down. I am just worried about moving out because I will miss my family but I think me and my relationship with my mum would be better if we didnt live together anymore, any advice? :) Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (2 July 2012):
 I think the problem is here that she is finding it hard to accept that you have growing up and matured in to a woman. It can sometimes be hard for parents to accept that there children are growing up. Try to be easy on her, she has your best interests at heart.
I think the best thing to do is to sit down with her when it is just you and her and talk to her. Tell her how you are feeling and see what she has to say. Maybe since you have got in to a relationship you have distanced yourself from your mother, so maybe even once a week set some time aside where you are both free and go shopping together or go for a coffee together.
Yes moving out of the family home is a big step for any young person, and it can be scary. But it has to happen sooner or later, so if you feel ready to move out and start living your own independent life well then talk to your parents about this.
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