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writes:My question: is it okay for me (male) to sleep with my father's ex girlfriend? How would look on my side and her side to other people? How can we (me and my dad ex ) get pass this and move on with are lives together?Background: my dad is in his late 50s divorced from my mom when i was in my teen and hes been secretly dating this younger girl 19 for a long time. I dont live around my dad so i didnt know. His girl knew he had kids but she didn't know how old we were... Im 23yr and i have 4 other brother no sister and the range is 19-12yr, we all have the same dad. 1 day I decided to go visit my dad but he wasn't home and young attractive girl is the door saying she was his girlfriend so I told her I'm his son nice to meet you. We both looked at each other confused and like a WOW Factor. I stayed with her for a minute to ask her how she didnt know about the family. She said she did but she didnt know how old we were and automatically thought we were younger than her. she didn't want to bring 'the kids' subject around my dad and give my dad an idea that she wanted to have kids with her. So she left it alone he was quiet about the subject is she was too. After i left called my dad never told him i went to his house and just said hi small talk. And i never went bk to my dads because I was mad that he was keeping a secret from the family .apparently during this time mths later... his ex girlfriend and him were getting in a lot of fights because she brought up the subject that he has older kids than her and my dad never talk about us like a father should and they broke up.A year latr after she broke up with my dad i saw her ask is she still with my dad she said no and told me what happen. That same day i was in a broke situation and i let my pride doown and ask for some money from her beacuse no one esle would help me. She gave it to me. We exchange numbers. We been talkin since and i really like her..told her i even love her and she ignore me. We hang out alot secretly and we never had sex. I want to have sex with her. shes sexy smart and young and she knows what she want and doesnt play games. And this is wht i need in girl right now. BUT she afraid of being called a whore and she like me too. I understand her. So right where just friends with a lot of sexual feeling with us and we are both pissed about this. And im afraid i may lose her. Can u help with my question?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2013): It doesn't sound like you actually want to date or have a relationship with this girl... you just want to sleep with her. The only feelings you mention are sexual. Just remember, she's a human being with hopes and emotions too, not a sex toy.
If you and this girl had discovered some transcendental magnetic attraction to each other, i.e. you thought you found your soul mate, I'd be more inclined to say go for it. But it honestly sounds like you're just looking for a lay. If that's the case, you should try and find the casual sex you're after in a manner that's less awkward and complicated for everyone involved--i.e., a girl your dad hasn't banged first. Good luck.
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reader, Intrigued3000 +, writes (5 March 2013):
 I think it would be alright if your father tells you it's OK. If you really like this girl and you think it's more than just an infatuation, then the honourable thing to do would be to tell your dad about how you feel about her and ask for his blessing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2013): How many women are there in the world who could be sexy, smart, young, know what they want and don't play games? I guess more than men are there that you would call "father".
If you date her, you're risking your relationship with your one and only father to be broken forever. Think twice if any girl is worth that...
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (5 March 2013):
You can't find any other women to date? This seems like more trouble than it is worth and I would never tackle such issues.
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