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writes:Well I could really do with some opinions and advice. So recently I find myself wanting to break up with my boyfriend. We’ve been together nearly seven months. I love him so much. But I can’t get his ex out of my head. She was a lot older than him and had children of her own. They were together nine ish months and after six months they got engaged, but then she broke up with him. We met four months later. I asked him if I was a rebound and he said no, but did think I was at the start but he sat down and really thought about it and realised it was me he wanted and that our relationship was starting form something fresh, not continuing from something else. A few weeks later I tried to break up with him again because of it. How can he ever love me the same way? I’m not the love of his life and I can probably never make him nowhere near as happy as she could. Any way he came home all the way from work just to see me and said if I needed to time alone he would wait for me. He told me that him ex started as NSA and it was about one thing and one thing only. He said that when he asked her to marry him it was one of those things he said without thinking (he as a tendency to say things without thinking) and started to think as soon as he’d asked her how can he get out of it. He also said that when he sat down and thought about it her breaking up with him was the best thing that ever happened. I want to believe him, but I can’t. I’ve put him through a lot of shit lately and he’s been a saint for putting up with me. I’ve been under a lot of stress lately and I’ve also recently been diagnosed with depression. So no it doesn’t make me the easiest of people to live with. My best friend said not to end it and that if I was a rebound he wouldn’t stick around. I just don’t know what to do. I can’t help but always think of the negatives, when I know deep down there are more positives. Please help! Thank you for reading
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reader, Rawrmaster  +, writes (26 June 2011):
I agree with your friend. you should give him another chance, and see how it goes. He sounds like he really care cause if he didn't he would would not stick around after all of this. So he does care for you! I have been on both side of this story. and I can tell you IF it started as a rebound it can end as them having really strong feeling and loving the person. so give him a chance and see how it goes. I wish you the best of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2011): We all have our pasts and have had past relationships, if he says he loves you and wants to be with you, why question it?
You should stop obsessing about yours or his past relationships and concentrate on eachother! hes with you not his ex, you obviously see something in him and should know he wouldn't be with you if he had feelings for his ex.
Just be with eachother and be happy!
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