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writes:Ok every guy i kno thinks im not a virgin but i am. They think im not because the way i act. I hang out with alot of people who arent virgins.They asked me if i was and i said no.I was scared what they would think of me. so i went along with it but like this guy i really like thinks ive already had sex and he wasnts to have sex with me but would he notice if i was a virgin if we did have sex? Reply to this Question
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reader, hannah76  +, writes (8 April 2009):
 Hello,
I'm gonna guess that yes, a guy will know if you are virgin. It could depend if he is sexually experienced though? You may bleed a little, be nervous and not relaxed enough. Try to do it with someone you care for and trust though. You will remember the name and his eyes all your life so don't give it away like this. The look on his eyes before and during have a habit of being etched in your memory forever. Make sure they are eyes you love or have loved. xxx
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reader, asian  +, writes (8 April 2009):
I think he would know the difference.. You can only imagine what its like but your whole response will be totally different when the time comes for you to indulge. If you really plan to indulge and its your first time you want it to be special and if you relly like this guy and you plan on doing it with him , you should let him know so he can be gentle.. It would be even great if you can actually save it for marriage. This is something you only get to lose once so make it special, memorable and do it with someone you love. I think you have these thoughts cause your still holding on to it and nothings wrong with that, it makes you stand out in a good way.. But its not when i think u should do it that counts.. My answer to your ? He will know that your a virgin
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2009): Wow, how sad. You want to pretend you are not a virgin to feel accepted and cool?
Your virginity, your body is your most precious gift. When you have sex with someone you will bond with that person emotionally, and if that person is not already in love with you, he will break your heart because boys/men are different than women and girls, they don't automatically bond emotionally with the women they have sex with, they aren't wired that way. In fact if a guy is not in love with you first he will lose respect for you and most likely dump you on your ass for giving him sex like it was a piece of gum!
Don't do it. This boy is only interested in sex, not in you. And if you pretend to be something you are not, he isn't going to have any more respect for you having pretended to be promiscous when you are not.
I know it is the thing to be sexually experienced these days, but sex is not something you need a lot of experience with a whole bunch of people in order to be good at it or to be an adult. It is a loving expression between two mature adults who are in love and when you are in love it is two souls uniting and that is what makes sex good, not experience with multiple partners.....
Not only that but you are not in a position to support a baby should you have an unwanted pregnancy. You also are at risk for STD's and even condoms will not protect you against the HPV virus that leads to deadly cervical cancer. Your sheer youth puts you at risk for contracting that deadly virus.
I hope you have a change in attitude about being a virgin. It used to be something to be proud of when you were in high school, now it is just a way to coerce young girls into having sex before they are emotionally and physically and financially ready to do so.
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