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writes: I found your website while surfing the net. I understand that you give advice regarding sexuality. I am in college and my parents have a cabin by a lake. Last summer I spent the break there. My mum also invited a friend. This friend was going to spend a week. I have not seen this woman in a long time. It has been over ten years since I have seen her. I learned that she divorced several years ago. This is a very attractive woman. The first few days my mum, her friend, and I all had a great time. Then my mum had to leave due to unexpected happenings at work. She told our guest to stay despite her leaving and told her that she would return. After my mum left we continued to have a fun time. We did many fun activities during the day by the lake. We also enjoyed talking and spending time together. One evening we were having a nice chat on the sofa when we both became quiet and looking right at each and told her that I had really enjoyed spending these days together. She said that she also enjoyed the time and the activities that we had done during the past few days. I also told her that I thought she was very beautiful and that I wished that I could kiss her. She gave a nice smile and cutely said why don’t you. I brought her towards me and we kissed. We spent some time with me holding her, talking, and kissing. We did not undress just kissed exposed areas. When it was bedtime we both went to our own rooms. The next day my mum returned the three of us had a fun day. We were all sad to say our goodbyes.On Valentine’s day I sent her a valentine’s day e-mail. I told her that I was thinking about her. I said that I hoped we would have a chance for more time at the cabin in the summer. She said that she hoped so too. She said that she would come again. Later when I was thinking of her I wrote her a note via e-mail and hinted that I found her attractive and I asked whether she reciprocates the feelings. She said yes. I asked her if she'd be interested in taking our relationship further. She again said yes. I don't know how she interperted my question. I then sleeked some advice from friends and it was mentioned that if I wanted to take it further than I should call her. I called her and we had a fun time talking and catching up. In e-mails I asked her if she was interested in taking our relationship further. I don't know how she interpreted my question but wanted to find out. I mentioned that I was happy that she wanted to take things a little further. I asked her what that meant. She said that she enjoyed the time we spent together and the events we did last summer and hoped we could have more fun times together. I said I hoped for that too. I did not mention our kissing last summer or bring up the subject of sex with her. However, I would like to have sex with her. I guess this is a natural to want sex with her even if this woman is 25 years older than me. What do you think? How and when can I tell her that I would like to have sex with her? Would calling it making love rather than sex be better? Should I tell her in person if she comes to the cabin or before? I think that she would be a great summer lover. How can I make this wish come true? Are compliments helpful for getting closer to this woman? What are some ideas of compliments that would be appreciated and give a bit of an innuendo? I have been thinking of writing her a love/thinking of you letter. Can sexual desires be written in them? I am also thinking of writing a story were a younger man and an older women have sex. I think I would write sexual details in this story if I write it. Are these good ideas? I don’t want this to bring problems between myself and my mum or her and my mum. However I would really like a sexual relationship with this woman. I don’t mind keeping our summer fling a secret. Thank you for your time and reply.
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (24 August 2008):
 Both "FinnMcCool" and "happytochat" provided excellent advice, and I totally agree that you should not communicate with her all that much. This is a situation where: If meant to be, it will simply occur sometime when the two of you happen to be together again and alone. It would be better if if just happened on the spur of the moment, after another sexy session of kissing and such. You would more likely blow the opportunity if you try to set it up. In my opinion, that or too much mushy stuff would creep her out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2008): I think more than enough talk has transpired between you both to make it obvious you both want the same thing. Don't just say to her you wish to have sex/ make love to her, let it happen, let it flow. When alone together and getting a bit romantic, simply say "Come to my room" She will understand perfectly and then, just do what comes naturally. Sounds like you're in for a great time, especially because you both seem to have a good feeling for each other. By the way, if you ever need to discuss your joint sexual activities, I'd definitely call it 'Making Love'Good luck, have fun, be discreet!
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (24 August 2008):
You shoudlnt call it 'making love' unless you are both in love and from what you wrote it doesnt sound like you are in love and neither is she. So to call it making love doesnt make sense. So you should call it sex.
You should talk to her about it in person, not over email or the phone etc. Its the best way.
I dont think you really need to go to such lengths as writing a story and so on...if you both want to have sex then it will def happen. Let things just be more natrual rather then planned.
As for your mum, i think if she found out she wouldnt be happy. Shed probably see it as her friend taking advantage of her son or something like that. she might be disgusted as well. It would probably effect there r/ship too. so maybe you should stop and think about this before you do anything more. but having said that, its the friends responsibility to make a mature decision and say no to you.
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