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writes:I cannot understand this man I met quite recently. Ok were only friends although he wanted sex but i normally hold back so did. However although it sounds daft I told him how much I liked him and now he has told me there will be no more future meetings between us. he is single (divorced) and do know his address and home number and he does live alone of course that doesnt mean he isnt seeing others. probably is. Why is he so angry because I said that? Ok it might be too soon but I havent said lets elope etc -couldnt he just say lower my level? Take it down a notch or two?He is in his 50's and we have a lot in common indeed when we were dancing together several people said we looked good together. I have asked him and he says in an e mail there are too many things fat too personal and some not so good and dont take it as a slight on me. I do though. Ok I cant make him change his mind but I do not know why the abrupt answer of that. Had we got to know each other a lot better I am sure we would have got on very well but he doesnt even want to try. Should I back off completely and HOPE I know its only a small chance but hope that he MIGHT opne day jsut get in touch again if he sees I have backed off? he also said in his e mail there was to be no questions, no flagellations or he would break complete contact with me which seems to be the case what have I done so terribly wrong?? Unless he is scared I might find dout what he WAS like (his own words more or less-too many personal things some not too good) Reply to this Question
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (6 August 2008):
 I would cut contact with this man. He's not going to be good for your own self-confidence and I think that he's demonstrated he's really not interested in you.
If you spend a lot of time trying to analyze him or figure out how to get him to respond the way you want, you are wasting precious time. It doesn't matter how much you have in common, he's not into you, and that is that.
Life's too short to waste on a guy who's just going to ignore you.
Good luck.
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