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41-50,
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writes:My boyfriend and I are planning our wedding, however our relatives and friends live interstate.We have problems with his parents (his mums doesnt approve of a mixed relign marriage) and my Father wont step foot in a church .We have only been planning for a couple of weeks and already there is complaints from my father regarding having the ceremony in a church.Im concerened that our day will be clouded with complaints and arguments.We are considering if it is less stressfull and easier on us to have a couple of friends come to us or have a destination wedding without inviting the parents, is this something that would cause more problems or is it the best solution for us to enjoy our day?
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reader, xanthic  +, writes (23 June 2010):
 This is YOUR wedding, you shouldn't have to plan it around anyone else but yourselves. If your relatives refuse to reach a compromise for just *one* day of their lives, what are you two going to do, not get married at all?
Although I don't think a destination wedding is going to 'solve' these problems, I do think you have a right to plan the wedding the way you want to, without having to accommodate to the selfish demands of your relatives. You're entitled to enjoy such an occasion without the stress of having to put your guests' complaints before your own happiness.
Let them know they'll be more than welcome to attend, but even if they don't, you're still getting married. Hopefully, this will be the wake up call they need to put aside their own opinions for both of your sakes.
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