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writes:I realise I have been stupid and immature HOWEVER we all make mistakesI went on holiday and fancied this much younger man like mad and stupidly wrote to him and told him so (on the holiday) -I thought nothing ventured nothing gained I KNOW it was silly but Ive done it - now-having looked on his web site - I see he has a photo with one of the dancers who was obviously with him on the holiday-my worry is - now-I hope he wont put anything nasty about me on the websites or Internet.Should I e mail him and say I was sorry I was stupid but pls destroy the letter?I just wish he ahdnt kept coming in to watch me dance on 5 different occasions and when I was sunbathing (asleep)he could have sat anywhere but sat opposite me and when I woke and looked up he was staring at me and everytime I was in the same part as him his eyes were always on me-so I stupidly wrote and told him how I felt ok daft I know that-but I am worried now he might put it on the Internet. Do you think as time goes on he will just forget all about it-think silly old fool-and throw it away if he hasnt already.Thanks I do worry about it
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2010): To the O'Poster, Excellent!!
Thanks for such a lovely follow-up, your spirits seem to have been lifted, and you so rightly repeat the words of those very WISE more mature ladies..we do indeed ONLY regret the things we didn't do, or at least give a go to..
I myself, always say, I never want an IF in life, I would rather fail an attempt to do something, or get a KNOCK back, than to have never tried, that way I know I can never look back and wonder the outcome.
You know at your age, it is still very young, and you shouldn't restrict yourself so much ( by what others think)and I'm so, so, pleased you are going on another Cruise.
Oh, yes digressing slightly ( dancers ;-) Pamela Stephenson is 61 next weekend, she is a celebrity on Strictly Come Dancing and at the 'TOP' of judges scores above much YOUNGER celebrities..and she's dancing with a man in his late 30's, so TAKE look at her, as she demonstrates that real ZEST for life, seizing it and having no IF's!!
Good luck, get some Cruise brochures and sip some cocktails!
Jilly
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJilly
You sound fantastic and an asset to this site-thanks so much
yes your right-since when did age matter anyway its not as if I was expecting to marry the guy just a bit of fun-who would care
I used to look after elder ladies who all said in their own ways "Ive done lots of things that I dont regret doing but there are several things I regret NOT doing when I had the chance-alas its too late-IF there is anything you really want to do go for it" Absolutely true
I will book another cruise for 2011 that is 9 months away so even if he were on there (doubt it) no one could say I was following him round
thanks so much
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2010): To the original poster!
Thanks for your follow up, you made me smile ;-) It the nicest way I assure you. This si the first time I've seen you have this ' gun ho ' attitude, it's good, he was just a young silly boy, receiving far too much attention, but it's life, and really NOTHING for you to worry about. I have done similar myself along life's journey, it's what makes it more fun and memorable.
Pleased I remembered you though - you GO girl, and forget about this, just enjoy your life, and don't let others affect what YOU want to do, if you want to go on the Cruise next year, and hold your head high, you've done nothing wrong!
Send me a postcard if you go..
Take care.
Jilly
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your advise I was upset becasue he didnt have to tell so many people on the ship and make me feel such a fool-I wish he had been a gentlemen and just laughed to himself and thrown it away however I have decided I will leave that cruise line alone for about a year then book on it and to hell with who ever is on there ir isnt
Many thanks for your help
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2010): Oh yes, IF you haven't contacted him, I WOULDN'T as another has suggested, well not if you want you and the letter to be a distant faded memory.
No one ever WRITES/Contacts anyone to say they didn't/don't feel anything, if they don't feel anything then they just get on with life and let it go. You didn't have a holiday romance, you didn't have anything physical with the guy, so as I say, if you haven't had any contact since the cruise of 2-3 months ago, a letter now by email would look pretty strange..Just leave it, you have nothing to worry about or feel guilty over.
Just relax..life is for living and having some fun, that's what you did, it's gone, let it go!
Jilly
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2010): Hello AGAIN!
I have just noticed your posting today, EXACTLY the same posting as I and several other Agony Aunts/Uncles answered about 6-8 weeks ago. It's word for word, apart from the fact you have left out you were on a Cruise, and just mention ( on holiday) where you met this younger man.
I wonder IF you have had further contact with dancer from the Cruise liner, as all replies to you a few weeks ago, were definitely on the positive side - as in nothing for you to worry about at all. He will be VERY used to the limelight, very used to females of all ages having crushes on him, and certainly a lot will make it known to him.
If I remember rightly apart from worrying about this utterly human incident, that no doubt he will have forgotten about by now, you enjoyed the Cruise and were thinking of booking another for 2011.
I hope you have...booked another for 2011!
Jilly
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reader, bemo97 +, writes (27 November 2010):
heyy,,
if im gonna be honest i think u should conntact him nd tell him that u r sorry but u dont really have any feelings for him it was just a holida romance, try getting him to destroy the letter and see if he will if not theres not much u can do.....
I hope this helped abit x
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