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writes: Ok Ill try to make it short. I used to date this guy like 3 months ago and i have stoped talking to him for that time. well last week we kinda started with fight over emails and then we softed it up.. so he was telling me how he still feels we could work things out and many other things. I have to say that i wanted too but then i found he's dating this girl that i know and i called her to check it out and she said that they do..so what i did, i showed her emails that he send me. i felt betrayed. but then he talked to her and convinced her that i just made that up.. my friends are telling me that he might as revange try to ruin my reputation and i dont want that to happen so what should i do. Reply to this Question
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reader, stina  +, writes (8 September 2006):
 Hi LiLKiss,
I know someone who was in your exact position. What she did was just ignore the guy. Just cut off all contact with him and that girlfriend of his. She is obviously in denial and he obviously isn't finished with the lies. You did what you could.
In my friend's case, the girl actually called and harassed my friend. You don't have to stand for that if that happens to you. Ignore it and she'll stop if there is no reaction. If she does not, then you can talk to someone at the police station about what can be done because harassment in any form is not okay. I doubt it will have to go that far, though. That's an extreme.
And if this guy tries to ruin your reputation - who is he going to tell that you really care about? Surely the people you know see what's going on and the ones who you don't know, well then who cares about them, right? Don't let it get you down. Easier said than done, I know... But try concentrating on other things - positive things. Go out more with friends and surround yourself with positive people, not the weirdos. :) That's what my friend did and the guy and his girlfriend eventally stopped their stupid nonsense.
Stay strong and do what you can to avoid these idiots in the future. Good luck and take care.
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