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writes:Me and my friend have been best friends since we were 12 and now we are 15, she used to be those innocent people, goody goody.. kinda on the nerdy side. Didn't care how she looked, you know. Now she is spoiled gets what ever she wants, dresses like a hooker. My boyfriend even said something to her about how she dresses, cause he was kind of concerned as well. Buys shorts that shows her bum, shows ALOT of cleavage, wheres see through shirts with only a bra. She hangs out with people who drink and go to house parties, that aren't virgins, who get in trouble with police. And she is starting to become one of tho's people. Today she is going too a house party, this would be her second this week.. and it's not just getting buzzed. She's getting completely wasted, and there's guys there that are like way older then her. And she is doing things with them, and she doesn't even know them. I want too tell her how I feel, but if I do.. she is the type of person to take it the wrong way.. and she will just say I am a horrible friend, and not talk to me. Or she will say "Oh too bad, I can doo what I want don't like? Then don't be my friend." I want too stop talking to her, but I feel if I do that then I am a horrible friend. I don't know.. we have been close for a while, i talk to her less now though. I feel that we are drifting apart, I haven't had a full conversation with her for ALONG time. I am worried that since she drinks that she might start getting into the drugs, and the school we go to is known for the drugs. What do I do? And what do I tell her.. I don't want too end the friendship.. or at least yet. I want her to stop, my other friend tried telling her and she didn't listen. Sorry this is kind of all over the place. :/
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (25 July 2012):
 You have kind of got me confused, you say you do not know what to say to her in case she takes it the wrong way and you lose a friendship, yet you then say you do not want to lose her as a friend.
Look she is not the same person as she was when you first became friends. She has growing up now and she has decided that she wants to dress like this obviously to get attention, and she is hanging around with older people and going drinking as she is trying to fit in. It sounds to me like she is just doing this to be seen, yes she may also be having fun but she is trying to make herself popular, she was obviously not happy with the way her life was before this.
This is quite common with teenagers growing up, and yes I can see why you are concerned, I think I would be as well if she was my friend. But then if it was my friend the first thing I would do is sit down with her and talk to her, I would be honest with her about how worried I am and explain to her the big changes I have saw in her recently. I would explain to her I am scared for her well being, and I wished she would not drink so much as I am scared something might happen to her.
She is not your responsibility no matter what way you look at it. But yes I can see why you are worried, and I am sure her parents are as well. Talk to your parents and friends and share your worries.
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