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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:HiMe and my girlfreind have been going out for 5 months now and its my 16th birthday next week. I am really worrid that she wants to have sex however I dont. She has been hinting at this for a while and I have been joking it off. how can i turn her down gently or tell her without being hurtful towards her.please help Reply to this Question
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (3 July 2007):
 Only do what you want to do. You don't have to do anything. There are things you can do that don't involve intercourse- oral sex for example. But make sure you are ready for that aswell. :)
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female
reader, love-him +, writes (3 July 2007):
 Hi babe, when she says she still wants to do something, what does she mean? sexually.. have you done anything at all.. like fingered a girl etc.. write back x x x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey just to update he situation my girlfreind told me she was ready she relized i wasn't when i told her. she said this was great but she still wants to do something next week but the problem is she has done it before and i havent. can you help me i dont want to be putting this off forever.
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reader, Artemesian  +, writes (22 June 2007):
 Maybe she wants it to be closer to you and to secure the relationship? Maybe she is feeling insecure about how you two stand and thinks it might tie you together more? Maybe that is the case or it might not but from a woman's perspective it sounds like it might be the issue. Talk to her and don't hold back about how you feel about her and why you want to wait until you are ready and how it will be well worth that wait to make your first time together a thing to remember forever, rather than a regret later on in life : )
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reader, love-him +, writes (21 June 2007):
Hia babii, explain to her u just arnt ready, if she isnt 'ok' abpout it, she isnt worth it babii, i hope she understands tho its bad when things like this happen, when opne person wants sex and the other just isnt ready.. mail me if u wana talk x x x
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (21 June 2007):
Talk to her about how you feel and how you are not ready. If she truly cares about you she will want you to wait until you are ready. If you talk feelings with her rather then joke it off she may respect you more for being honest with her and opening up.
Good Luck!
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