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writes: i'm 24 yrs old and currently dating my boyfriend for nearly 7 years. I'm having an affairs with someone else he seem to knew about it and started to cursed me saying that he would want to kill me and the guy if he saw it on his own eyes.I broke up with him a few times but every time I broke up with him he will do silly thing that leads me be with him back. I do love him but at the same time I want to be free to do whatever I want. What should I do I just need space with my own life but I'm scared that he will do something stupid to me and my new boyfriend.Please asssit as I am so confused and scared..as at some point my relationship with him is because I'm scared and teh fact that I would not be able to live in peace....
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (4 January 2006):
 Dearie, i would advise u to leave this guy still. u obviously dont have feelings for u and he has been threatening to stay with him against your will.
Thread carefilly here.Is there nobody u could run to and stay with without him knowing so that he cant contact u in anyway?maybe u should do that.
If there isnt anyone for u to go to for help then u could try the police. They could get a restraining order.
All the best dear, let us know what happens
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reader, Tinkz  +, writes (4 January 2006):
 My angel,
You in a bit of a mess but there are ways to stop your boyfriend from hurting you.
If you don't want to be with him, leave him and if he bothers you tell him you will have a restraing order put out against him. This should get him to back off and if he doesn't get one and follow through if he still doesn't leave you alone.
As he gradually starts to accept it, things will get easier.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (4 January 2006):
Wow this guy really does have alot of power and control over you doesn't he? Thats not right, no1 should feel scared in a relationship and deffintly not scared to leave it. I understand that you are scared about what he might do, like hurt you or your new bf, that must be really hard to live with that feeling hey? I think you should sit him down and have talk to him in the nicest possible way you can. If you leave him on the best terms you can, the less liekly he is to do something bad, even though he will probably be angry no matter what. I think that is something you just have to accept, that you will hurt his feelings, yet in the end you are doing the best thing for him. If when talking to him he does threaten to hurt you or anyone else if you leave him, then you need to tell him that you will call the police, even if its just a threat, call the police. This guy needs ot know that he just cant get away with it, and if his threats are empty, and you call the police, well he should deffintly learn his lesson!
Hoenstly darl, leave this guy, he is making you feel traped and unhappy and you shoudlnt be like that in a relationship. Let him down gently, and if he makes threats, call the police. Maybe you could bring a firend or close family member along with you when you do it, to make you feel more safe.
Take care
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