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writes:My ex dumped me last year around thanksgiving and it crushed me. We just went on a second weekend date in a beautiful hotel and went to a concert. Then the next day we started our day in the hot tub drinking mimosa's. We continued to drink and walked all over the city that day holding hands like we used to. It felt so wonderful but now were back home and im confused. He doesn't seem to be talking to me as much as he was before our trip. Seems distant. what does this mean. He was wonderful to me and now its like it didn't even happen. Im just wondering what he's thinking. Also when he was buzzed he told me he loves me. He said it twice. My heart hurts and im thinking I should of said no to this second weekend date. What should I do
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (25 April 2014):
 Maybe he wanted a week-end of fun & Girl-friend experience, but without HAVING to put forth commitment or effort in CARING for a girl friend.
If you want to be his "week-end" or "vacation" girl-friend then go for it. IF you want more then tell him no thanks, and be honest with him. Tell him you are NOT interested in this FWB thing, you are looking to either get back together or finding (eventually) a NEW BF.
If he ONLY wants the FWB kind of thing, then CUT the contact 100% and MOVE on. You are essentially wasting your time hoping he wants to get back together.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (25 April 2014):
 I am not that clear on what is a second weekend date ( you had been on a date the weekend before ? or ...? ) but , if this is an ex, and you were hoping to get back together, I think you should not have gone on a weekend with him at all, first or second or third, at least not before knowing if you were on the same page , and if he was too at least considering resuming a steady relationship.
Otherwise, an ex that takes you away for the weekend, to chill , drink, have sex, etc... is exactly this, someone who wants to enjoy some rest and relaxation, and share some fun with a sexually attractive woman.
If he was all lovey dovey on weekend ( and when drunk ) , but he's standoffish and indifferent on weekdays and sober, ... what he is probably thinking is that he had a nice weekend, and a good time, and enjoyed this minibreak-but now, please, don't get any ideas ,it was just a nice time between consenting adults.
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