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writes:Would you be more or less attracted to a guy that was saving himself for marriage? Please be honest. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2008): it is very sexy
makes me want to be with them more
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2008): It not a turn off for me at all. Being a person who values that, I think it's wonderful. That's one of the things I liked a bout my first boyfriend. I mean if a girl wasn't willing to marry just because you had no prior sexual experience before getting married she's DUMB. I mean what is sex going to be 40 years after the day you got married? If your a nice decent guy who's got himself together, I would really care about that. My boyfriend and I have never done that, and we don't do that just because of that. I think if great when a guy's willing to wait and give all of himself only to you (maybe that sounds sappy to someone), it's like he was waiting on just you to come along before it happened. More guy's should do that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2008): What if the virgin is a serial killer? would the virginity be still valued?There are other qualities that would make a person attractive as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2008): more attracted
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2008): Indigo, maybe you should be asking yourself, what do You find most attractive in a woman? If she has slept with other men, will that bother You? If you have insecurities of being compared to her other lovers, can you live with that? I don't think you see the integrity, honor or self control it takes to be a virgin until marriage. It's a life by values and not emotions. Something Very special! As I've said before, if a girl gives her body/heart to many men, how much is left for her husband?
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reader, Mushgirl  +, writes (24 November 2008):
 Personally, if I'm being honest, I wouldn't find it less attractive (I think fair enough, you gotta wait for as long as you like) but I probably wouldn't go into a relationship with someone who wanted to wait til marriage. For the simple reason that I find sex very important to a relationship, I love sex and I never plan on getting married. But your attractiveness wouldn't be compromised particularly, although guys who practically ooze sex are hot... But that's just me. And I do think it's admirable to wait (I couldn't do it.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2008): Everyone has a right to their own opinions.So am I.
"Do not judge and you shall not be judged"
"Let who is not sinner amongst you cast the first stone"
I am sorry I don't want to know anything else about you. I don't form friendships based on virginity either.I wish you all the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2008): Bugs, beside this thread, those are the only ones where I have put my opinion (correct me if you think I was on other ones):http://www.dearcupid.org/question/she-informed-me-shes-not-a-virgin-what.htmlhttp://www.dearcupid.org/question/since-he-found-out-im-not-a-virgin.html... and this thread is the only one where my opinion is related to something you wrote. I assure you I don't follow you around, just happened to be interested in the same threads (only two of them this far).PS: I'm a 26 year old virgin from Romania (had an account here: 'lonewolf82' some months ago, but deleted it along with all its messages; but that's another story and unrelated in my opinion to this problem of yours cocerning me). If you want more info about me give me an e-mail address and I'll contact you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2008): Mr.Anonymous who follows me around in almost all of my posts and tries to make a case out of each and every word that I say,Hear me out.If you have honesty you wouldn't be anonymous.If you want to refute everything I say at least do it with a name.
Me and my Husband were virgins.Yes a personal choice for sure.it doesn't matter to me.What matters more is the fact that he wouldn't run behind any other woman.What matters more is that he wouldn't give me up to anyone else.What matters more is the little things he does to show his love.What matters more is the fact that he is oblivious to all the girls who hit on him.What matters more is the fact that he respects my opinions and doesn't twist each and every word I say.Now for the last time,Leave me alone!
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reader, grobanite  +, writes (24 November 2008):
 Yes. Its incredibly attractive! With something as intimate as that, I believe its going to be amazing to share it with the man I marry. Since I'm also saving myself--for religious reasons though--i do find it awesome. But before I vowed to do it for my God, I decided i would lose my virginity with another virgin.
I think it will be better for both involved that way.
So yes, you totally should save yourself for marriage. What better wedding present could you give to your wife than something that nobody has ever had before?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2008): Somehow *loyalty* and not waiting until marriage don't look good together for me. Where's the loyalty in that? Not having sex at the same time with more than one man/woman? Until when? Until you no longer feel satisfied with the present situation? Sorry, that doesn't counts as *loyalty* for me. Loyalty is when you choose carefully and stick to your choice till the end, because you made the right choice ... one with your head, not with ... something else
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reader, katatonik +, writes (24 November 2008):
 I think it's a very respectable attitude to have and a lot of women/girls would appreciate being their partner's first and only. That said, personally...if I was even CONSIDERING marriage I'd probably want to know for sure that I was sexually compatible with the guy first, as differences in sex drive/sexual preferences are a huge source of marital discontent.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2008): I wouldn't be attracted to a guy based on his virginity.There are a lot more qualities like honesty,honor and loyalty that makes a guy attractive for me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2008): personally me, i waited 6 months into my relationship before i lost my virginity. this was because i felt i needed to be truly in love before i decided to make such a decision. and still sometimes i feel i should have waited longer, because don't get me wrong i love my boyfriend to death, we have been dating for 2 years now, but sometimes i feel that the relationship now is based on our sexual activity when we still have a lot of growing together and getting to know each other. if your significant other turns you down because you will not "give out" than that is there loss. in the beginning stages of such a relationship you should be more active in mental attractions to realize if they are the one or not. because if you are truly in love the physical parts should not matter as much. i am glad to hear you are waiting, sorry for the long explanation i'm sure you wanted it short and sweet but i like to speak my mind when i have the chance too.
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reader, !Candice16! +, writes (24 November 2008):
 Well, we woman are all diffrent. most of us are attracted to a guy who will wait untill we are really ready. some of us want to wait untill marrige. it depends on the girl. but we usually get carried away. but like i said, it depends on the girl. dnt rush the sex though. but of course, most of us are attracted to tht. but then again we have hormones and will try to rush things because its what we feel.
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reader, !Candice16! +, writes (24 November 2008):
Well, we woman are all diffrent. most of us are attracted to a guy who will wait untill we are really ready. some of us want to wait untill marrige. it depends on the girl. but we usually get carried away. but like i said, it depends on the girl. dnt rush the sex though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2008): Its a smart thing to do, or at least save it for some one you really truely love. I, yes, atterated to it because you dont want to lose it to some one and eventually regret it in time. Im just being honest, like you said.=) I've made a promise to some one i really love and im sooo saving it for him too.=)
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