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writes:Ok my boyfriend of 9months asked me about 3 months ago would i go on top during sex just for a change, i said no cause i havent a clue what to do and he was ok with that.but personally i tried it with my ex and it just didnt work for us. I would like to try it with my current bf but im a afraid ill do it wrong... any tips girls and guys??? thanks xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): Get on top, insert penis, and use it to find secret treasures. My wife did that, there was somewiggling, not up and down movement, when she was done, we'd roll over, she with her legs rapped around me, and then I'd finsih it off for myself (and her - her prefered position), and the best position for me (facing each other).
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reader, oldfool  +, writes (29 April 2008):
 Don't tell him about your experience with your ex. This is strictly between you and your boyfriend. Mentioning specific sexual acts with previous lovers may give rise to unnecessary sensitivities.
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reader, fishdish  +, writes (29 April 2008):
 something that i always had trouble with before was leverage? that is, I would have on leg on either side of my man's body but didn't even feel him in me during the up and down motion, so what i've found instead works nicely for me, is one leg the usual way (shin into the bed) and the other knee up, so that your foot is square down on the other side of his hip so you're almost in a squatting position, which may sound not so cute but he doesn't care about your tum prob cause your boobs could be sexily flailing everywhere? anyway in this way you can push your foot up and down which makes your body do the same. also let him hold the bottom of your butt cheeks, I think it may take some of the weight off and on to him- I don't know, helps me!
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reader, natasia  +, writes (28 April 2008):
 Well, it's pretty easy, and pretty damn nice, I can tell you.
Simple method: he is lying down on his back. You get on top of him (one leg either side of his legs). You can just get used to that position for a while ... if you position yourself against him, as it were, you will be able to feel him. Kiss him. Wriggle around. Enjoy being there! And then, when you feel ready, just, well, just put him inside you. Then gently move up and down. Or do whatever you feel like ... really, your first principle always has to be to do what you feel like, and follow your instinct. Anything goes. But your body and his body know what to do, trust me. Gradually you'll build up a rhythm and you may find that by the end of it you're moving up and down really quite fast ... he may hold you, as well, and pull you into him. It's great. Really. And you're in control of the pace and everything, if you want to be.
Just kind of go with it, and see where it takes you. There are lots more ways of being on top, but just the simple face to face, kissing, lying against his chest and moving as feels right is 100% perfect. You can graduate later to sitting up, facing different ways, etc ... but just remember that you should follow your instincts, and you'll be ok. Don't worry about 'knowing how to do it' - nobody does - they just do what feels good. And always take it very slowly to start with.
Good luck, and have fun! It can also prove to be the easiest way for women to orgasm when they're having sex, because if you rub up and down the right way then sort of everything is being touched at the same time, and that works!! ; )
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reader, Susan Strict +, writes (28 April 2008):
 Go for it. Just do it. It's great. You don't need to be told what to do - just do what comes naturally.
Also, consider, when you are on top you are "controlling the action". You can go as fast as you like, as slow as you like, at whatever angle you like. You can watch him, watch the expression on his face, and see whether what you are doing is working for him as well as for you - and you can take notice of that or not, as you please. There are times when, without any shadow of a doubt, "selfish" sex is best, although in any loving relationship you don't want to be doing that all the time! You might well find that you "taking charge of the action", which is natural when you are on top, is a great turn-on for him.
Yeah, all right. You've worked out it's what I like best. It's no secret!!
Enjoy.
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reader, crownedprincess +, writes (28 April 2008):
Hiya!
I really dont think you should lie to your current
boyfriend about this becasue if he finds out you lied he
may think its him and that he's not performing well enough!
Just tell him what happend im sure he will understand and
maybe you'll be more comfortable with trying it! me
personally i dont like it, its ok for others but for me
i dont enjoy it! just be open with him, im sure he will
respect you more in and out of the bedroom!
good luck x
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