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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (28 June 2015):
 Wayne, your answers are a bit, um, vague. I'm not sure you are going to be able to communicate your desires in a manner that will ensure she accepts your proposal without being offended.
The next time you get together with her, you could start a general conversation about the fact you are okay with casual sex (if that's what you want) or the conversation could be about the fact that you are looking for something serious (if that's what you want).
I think you need to figure out what your priority is here, and then be able to articulate that goal clearly.
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reader, waynef +, writes (26 June 2015):
waynef is verified as being by the original poster of the questionboth
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (26 June 2015):
 OP, your goal-besides getting into this woman's pants-is rather vague.
Are you worried about offending her because you'd like to continuing seeing her in hopes that it will lead to something serious or you simply don't want to blow your chances of getting her into bed?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (26 June 2015):
 So what you are really asking is "HOW to I approach this woman to be my F-buddy?"
9 out of 10 women would b offended that you see them as no more then a walking vagina for you to use, when it SUITS you.
And honestly, if a guy asked me that I would laugh and tell him, no way in Hades do I want to be your sex-toy. And after that I would blankly ignore your existence.
You could try the direct approach she might find it refreshing.... but be prepared to be shot down.
If you are JUST looking for someone to screw occasionally, why not try one of those many hook-up sites?
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reader, waynef +, writes (26 June 2015):
waynef is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have knowen her for 3 mos and have had coffee with we have a couple of times the last time we met was for an hour and we talked about each other.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (26 June 2015):
 So this is all about your want to have sex with a woman that you barely know?
Bit selfish I would say.
Why don't you get to know her first, that is if she is actually interested in you and see where that leads.
If you just proposition her, chances are that the wrath of a insulted woman will rein down on your head!
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (26 June 2015):
 Wayne: There is NO WAY that you can blurt out to a woman: "I'd really like to have sex with you...." without making that woman "mad." A few might give you a "pass" and not slap you upside the head.. and fewer still might go to bed with you despite such a boorish comment....
On the other hand... MOST - damn near ALL - women like to get a guy's attention... be woo'ed by him.... after which they are likely to put out for him....
THOSE are "the Rules"..... don't try to shortcut them... and believe that you can do so without making a woman "mad."
Good luck...
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reader, jls022  +, writes (26 June 2015):
There's a chance that may not be possible. I know from my point of view that there's nothing a man could say to me to get me to agree to casual sex, most especially if he asked for it straight away without putting any other effort to really get to know me.
Of course all women are different and she may just take you up on your offer, but this really isn't something you'll know until you ask. Prepare yourself for all eventualities before you approach her.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (26 June 2015):
Ask her out? Get to know her better and test the water by mentioning how comfortable you are with "friends with benefits" situations. Unless you've devised a mind-reading device, there really are no shortcuts.
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reader, Ciar +, writes (26 June 2015):
I assume that's all you want from her? One time or you want her be available to put out when the mood strikes you?
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