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writes:hii have a wife who i have been married to for 12 years and we have a daughter that is 9 this year, before we had our daughter things between us were ok, we then decided to try for a baby and she didnt become pregnant straight away she then got depressed and she eventually fell pregnant after 2 years of trying. she then became unhappy where we lived with our daughter together so we moved to a different city she then became unhappy there after a few months so we moved back to the city where we originally came from (this happened about 4 or 5 times) she then became unhappy again and decided she wanted to move to england so i applied for my visa and passport and in that time i was waiting for it she decided she was going to go without me so she did and took our daughter with her, i eventually joined them and after 2 years she decided she wanted to come back to our home country so my wife and my daughter went back and left me in england as i was doing a course in computers during this time we was trying to save money so we could have a nice life and have holidays etc. however she then decided to come back to england without our daughter leaving her with her grandparents. eventually after 9 months she went and in the meantime i was still doing this course so i had to stay. while i was over in england i met this wonderful beautiful woman who shows me everything my wife isant, she shows me love and tells me she loves me and makes me feel like i have never felt before i really love her and i am very happy when i am around her, however earlier this month i went back to my own country to live, i have only been there 2 weeks and my wife wants to move again. we dont have a sex life we argue all the time and we dont even sleep in the same bed ever since our daughter was born life has been like this, i love her because she is the mother of our child but this woman i have met in england i really love and i know she really loves me and i broke her heart when i went back but the only reason i went back is because of my daughter i have missed out on 5 years of her life all in all because of my wife moving all the time. she has also said to me twice she wants a divorce but if we do she has said i will never see our daughter again. she is always checking my phone, my emails etc and always asking what i am doing who with and things like that. i really dont know what to do anymore please helpthanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi
thanks for all your answers i just cant bring myself to tell her because i want to be able to see my daughter al the time i know i can go to court and everything but i dont want to put my daughter through anything i dont really have to. she is already struggling at school because of the way my wife treats her. please how can i sit her down and talk about this with her without her starting an argument and been abusive towards me
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2009): It's not up to her whether or not you see your daughter. It's up to the jury.
Your wife sounds like an insanely selfish woman and I pity you, unable to see how you have put up with her.
You should talk to a lawyer and see what your chances of losing your daughter completely are. If they're low, then get the divorce. You sound very unhappy. It's sad for your child to be involved in a divorce but she will get through it and be stronger, and hopefuly be especially wise in her decision in who she marries. Yo also don't want to give her the impression that it's ok to be with another woman while you're married. And face it: your wife will find out eventually seeing as she's trying really hard to discover something. Once she does found out, I have no doubt that she'll tell your daughter what you did, in order to make her not like you. And then she'll use it against you in court.
You need to be excrutiatingly careful in this. But you should not have to stay with your wife and live in misery.
~Sy.
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