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writes:im a 21 year old male and still a virgin and i have scaring from my acne and real selfconcious about it and i wanna talk to women but am too scared is there any way to avoid this the only good thing about me is that im pretty built
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2008): I agree with the other posters about female friends.
But you've also got to get more thick-skinned. (Sorry about the acne-related sound of that phrase!) The guys who get the most women are the ones who are not only attractive, but they're also willing to fall on their face about 25 times for every single success.
You've gotta stop looking at a rejection as a "rejection" and just look at it as a non-win.
It's sort of like playing a slot machine at a casino: You don't get emotionally crushed & walk away after a single coin fails to win, do you? Of course not. You're not that emotionally invested in the single coin pull. And just as importantly, you're also not embarrassed to be seen in public losing a round at the machine either. Your whole self-worth isn't wrapped up in it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2008): Hi I agree with the above post. Try being a girls friend first or have small talk. Always remember to be yourself! Also try not to be self conscious about your acne lots of people have this. I myself use pro active that stuff seems to work really good you might want to give it a try.Anyways thier is worse things a person can have than acne. So cheer up and try to have more self confidance nothing beats a great personality!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (14 April 2008):
 I'd start small, just try to have a small conversation with one or two women a day, not trying to pick them up, just a simple conversation for practice.
"Hi, how are you doing" kind of chatting, or you could ask advice while shopping for food or clothes. Just some simple encounters with the opposite sex without the pressure of having to date them right away.
Start there and work up to asking a girl you like on a date...
Good luck!
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