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writes:Background: ok so i am 16 yr old, a girl, and have a crush on a guy that sits next to me in class. my mom bought me the most beautiful dress ever and says that i have to go to the next dance with a guy. However, i just had a messy breakup with my exboyfriend and want to go out with someone to the dance as friends. So i kind of think this guy is really cute in my history class. Should I ask him. however, i am worried it will ruin our nonexistant friendship (aka we only talk about hw) and it will get awkward if he declines. And i wlll have to sit with him for the rest of the year and see him everyday, so i doubt the awkwardness will go away…Question: Should I ask him even though it might be awkward or….take a guy friend (guy friend=likes me but i dont like)
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reader, Illithid +, writes (9 January 2011):
 That is the dilemma, isn't it? I'd say that you should ask the guy you like. There's not much of a friendship to risk right now, and if he turns you down, it's better to know that now than to pine for him for months to come if there's no potential. But if he says yes, then you could be kick starting a relationship. (And really, if you laugh it off if he says no, the awkwardness doesn't need to last long anyway.)
If you ask your guy friend that you know likes you even though you don't return his feelings, then you're just stringing him on and making it harder for him to get over his romantic feelings to you. That's just cruel to tease like that by asking him to go to a formal dance "just as friends" knowing he wants more than friends.
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