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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:My partner of 14 months broke up with me last night due to the fact that he feels claustrophobic and trapped. (His an Aries, I'm a Scorpion) Last yr (October time)he gave me the key to his flat, without me asking or hinting anything. He told that instead of going back to mine all the time that I should leave stuff at his as I'm always there and it will allow me to let myself in anytime. For a good few months however I would always text him saying I was on my way, until I settled into it. I was really excited and thought he wanted to move the relationship to another level. Everything was going fine (little bickering now and again)and he asked me that would I consider getting a mortgage with him next year so we can start planning a family. Obviously I was over the moon. Anyway last Sunday I was asking him various relationship questions i.e- where do you see our relationship going- he replied kids and house etc etc, are you happy in relationship which he replied yes, he said in next 6 months to a yr to think about starting a family. On the Monday he told me (well I got it out of him) that he had spoken to his recent ex regarding a certain matter. Now I wouldn't have been that mad however, she had recently text him saying 'I need you' and I know for sure she wants him back. I trust him but not her! So I went mad and then he gave me cold shoulder for 2 days then said he felt trapped and I'm too controlling and moody. Is it that he wants her back?? I asked him this but he obviously denied it. He says he is not getting certain things done with work, kids (from previous relationship, but this ex is NOT their mum) I've moved my stuff out his flat but now his concerned where I'm living and has been texting asking me today.He has pulled this stunt before, where his ended it and then comes back with his tail between his legs. Shall I leave him to cool off?? I'm really hurt by this- I feel I haven't done anything wrong and its strange that he can just switch his emotions for me so quickly.I don't no what to do!! I really love him and don't want to lose him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2011): The only thing that stands out to me is how much you two discussed the future when you were only dating for 14 months when you split up
As for 'does he want me back' - do you want him back?
He sounds like he has an ex who still wants him and she's now caused this bad feeling - he needs to be open about his contact with her if you two are ever going to stand a chance
Try a bit of no contact so he can decide what he wants and get busy with other stuff so your not just focusing on him
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