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writes:HiRecently I got in touch with a man that I met at university years ago. We’ve not been in touch for 8 years. At university, we dated for a short term. I have always had feelings for him. Anyway we are now together. When I got in touch with him recently, I never expected us to be a couple. Things are great between us. I am happy that we are together. I am also focused on my marketing career and I am trying to get a job in this field. I have recently completed my marketing qualification. I have had no luck in finding jobs in marketing in the area that I am living. I am thinking of applying for jobs in London and I could commute to see my boyfriend over the weekends. It will be a 2hr and 15mins journey via train. It may be expensive to travel as well. I would be living with family relatives in London. I don’t think they would be keen if he stopped over in London. I would commute to see my boyfriend. I am worried if I move to London, this will affect my relationship. I have spoken about this with my boyfriend and he said we will make it work but he can’t guarantee how things will play out between us. He said he doesn’t want me to hold back from my dreams. If I move to London, can we sustain our relationship and if so any advice on how?Thanks for the advice.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (19 November 2013):
 we made a 2 hour by car distance work for a year... then he moved to be with me.
our friends are married... they dated 2 years.. then married. they are married a year now.. he lives two hours away and every friday takes the train to her... in 2 years when he retires he will be with her full time.
LDRS can work but they cannot remain LDRS forever....
I would give it a shot... find a job and go for it... 2 hours is very workable and you won't have to live with family forever... eventually you could find a place a bit closer to him and he a bit closer to you... and it becomes easier... an hours commute one way daily for work is doable...
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reader, jennajozie +, writes (18 November 2013):
If you are truly meant to be you will make it work :)
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reader, person12345 +, writes (17 November 2013):
 Couples can work with the distance, but eventually one of you is going to have to move. You can't maintain a relationship indefinitely. Would he move to London?
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