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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hello all,When I was 17 (he was 18)I met a boy and we dated for 3 years. We were each others "firsts." Then, we ended up breaking up for about 8 months. This was the most miserable, depressing time of my life but I eventually started to move on. That is, until we ran into each other and started talking again. The problem is however, during our time apart he slept with 4 girls (all one night stands). Hearing this news was extreemly hard on me but I still started dating this guy again (has now been 5 months). Still, I have never been able to get over the fact that he slept with all those girls and I'm not sure if i ever really will. To me, sex is suppose to be something special between 2 ppl who love each other, but knowing that he doesn't view it that way is very hard for me to accept and scares me that he is more likely to cheat or do it again if we break up for a short time. Plus, when we do sleep together it doesn't feel as special as it use to. What should i do? Will these feelings ever go away?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2010): If it bothers you then that is what your feelings are. Don't apologize for them. Since the original breakup you may have seen a side of your BF that is too much in conflict with what you want in a man. You can decide you don't want to date someone without judging them. (Some people act like that's impossible. I guess those people have never turned down anyone for a date before in their life.)
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (22 November 2010):
 Well first of yes sex is intimate and it is meant to be shared with two people in love, but a lot of people out there have one night stands for many reasons and i dont think its right for anybody to judge someone.
He was single when he had these four one night stands therefore he never cheated on you and he never done anything wrong on you, so i dont understand why you would feel he would cheat on you now, in fact fair play to him for being honest with you.
If he ever does have a one night stand again if you are broken up still he would be doing nothing wrong, its in his past so just concentrate on the future, forget the past.
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