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writes:we've been together for 3 years now and we are still both in love but now she's decided it is time for us (or her really) to merry but I am not sure I want to, I dont feel I am ready but at the same time I know she has really put her mind into that and she will leave me if I won't merry her and the thought of losing her depresses me just as much as the prospect of marrying. Has anyone been in situation like this before ? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2009): I broke up with my boyfriend five months ago because of the same situation. I wanted to make sure we would have a future together and he said he was not sure he wanted to get married. A women wants to know she has a future with a man she is investing her time in. One of lifes tough lessons is you do not know what you have till it is gone. You may not realize how much you want her until she meets another man. I would at the very least consider going to counseling with her so you can talk it out with a professional, I agree she will only wait so long especially if she wants children! Good Luck!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (25 October 2009):
You need to really think about this. She's now looking for commitment, and if you're not ready, there is a high chance you will lose her. Why don't you want to commit to marriage? Has something happened before that makes you feel insecure? If there is, talk to her about it. She won't wait forever.
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