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*ohnnito15
writes:ok so i was talking to this girl who just broke up to her boyfriend and we became good friends. i started to like her but i didn't know if she liked me. her and i would talk on the phone for hours! we would go to the movies and i would always pay for her. she would always order food for the two of us so we could share. i thought she started to like me. so i finally told her i liked her and she didn't say anything. i said it again and she said she didn't know what to say. it was awkward so we stopped talking for 2 months. she called me one day and we continued to talk. my question is will she ever like me or will i always be in the friend zone?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): Well my friend, I wouldn't hold my breath for this girl. I mean you expressed your feelings for her, and you got silence, not a good sign...
It means you really are in the friend zone, she enjoys your company, she feels you two have fun, but she doesn't see you as the man she'd sleep with. Maybe you took too long to express your feelings, maybe you became too needy, girls hate that. Some women do not want sweet and caring, they want a man with some mystery to him. She didn't respond to your feelings, because she doesn't want to hurt you and doesn't want to lose you as a friend.
If she talks to you about other guys, this is definitely a major red flag she isn't into you as a man, period. The best thing of having a girl as a friend, is that you can meet HER friends and hook up with them. I mean honestly. Do you want to hear the woman you crave about talk about other dudes?
it's your choice if you want to stick around and become her teardrier, or shift your focus and energy to meet someone who shares your feelings?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): Sounds like she needs a friend to tell her problems to and do enjoyable things with, but doesn't see you as more than that. If she is just getting over the last person it would be a bad idea anyway. Stay friends if you can accept it as just that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): I don't know if she will like you in the future or not, but for now I think she just sees you as a friend. Things might progress in the future but you shouldn't hold on to that, you'll only feel hurt or angry after if she still only likes you as a friend. Try being just friends with her again for a while, and if you find you can't handle it then maybe you should distance yourself from her, and explain why. Your feelings for her might pass but the former is more likely to happen. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): She probably has liked you before and if so this can account for the unreasonable reaction to your confession. She has yet to lose interst in you, hence the call, and that is a good thing. For now, she would probably feel better if you stayed in the friend zone, but don't stop working her. She'll come around--after all it's hard to come by a guy who'll stand by your side after you cut communications for 2 months.Good luck!
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