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41-50,
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writes:This might be a common thing but I have been with my boyfriend for 3 months and we are very happy except for one thing - there is this female friend of his who in her words is in love with him. She rings him all the time and if he doesn't pick up she'll try again.He has told me that he's told her that its never going to happen but its not working.I have told him how I feel but he always says that she was a good friend to her, but he agrees to meet up with her for a drink - to me that is giving her a flase sense of hope.I'm at my witts end with this, I've tried to block this out but its not working.Does anyone have any suggestions as to what I can do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (17 April 2008):
 A man have a different sense of conduct from a woman .
Even if he has no interest in her, he will treat her in a gentlemanly way.
He does not let emotions cloud his thinking.
She is just a friend even though he knows that she is interested in him.
Most men have a single track mind and very simple minded.
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (16 April 2008):
 If he indeed is not interested in a relationship with her and she keeps on ringing him then what in the world is he doing going out for a drink with her.
I agree with you that he is giving her a false sense of hope by going for drinks with her.
If any man truly said to me, it aint going to happen or go away, there is no way I'd be hanging around. I wonder if that really was said. And if that same mad told me to go away but then had a drink with me I would definately be confused and think I perhaps had a chance.
It doesn't add up to me and I'm not the suspicious type.
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (16 April 2008):
You can try to convince your b/f but if it does work ,
you will have to tolerate his nonsense for the time being.
You cannot force the issue on him because you will not get
the satisfaction and you may be at the receiving end of his anger or discontent.
Let him settle that problem himself and give him more time.
Don't push him over the cliff.
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reader, daniellexxxx +, writes (16 April 2008):
 This girl clearly doesnt take no for a anser, Go see her your self and tell her to stop ringing your bf all the tim. If she doesnt change your numbers and tell him not to give her it. But when he goes for drinks with her you have to trust him not that i would go see her and tell her to leave him alone.
Good luck.
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reader, Ches +, writes (16 April 2008):
Ches is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBut the thing is they were never a couple and if she asks him for a drink he always says yes.
He told me he sent her a text message saying that she should go away, but I know this was wrong - I checked his mobile and there was no message of the sort being sent.
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reader, binhquangdao +, writes (16 April 2008):
 you should trust him and what he does he just wants closure with the girl and tell her the completed truth without you there so you won't see how much of an asshole he's gonna be to her. Trust him if he didnt' love you or trust you he would not of tolded you anything. :)
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