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anonymous
writes:I have been with my girlfriend for 2 years on and off, always ending it when things got too heavy coz I had been deeply hurt in the past.We have been split for 2 months now and she tells me she loves me, yet shows only hate and bitterness toward me.She will not reply to any form off communication from me. Yet never a week goes by where she does not contact me and ask to see me. Then when I see her, it always ends in a argument because I have deeply hurt her.My constant texts have made things worse as I try to tell her I want to funnly commit now and I love her with all my heart.She just seems so angry and bitter, yet surely if she loved me, she would want to be with me.what should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2009): The problem is that even though you have now finally decided to commit she has come to realize, because of what you have only ever shown her, is that you are unreliable. You have only hurt her. No matter how much you love someone its hard to forgive.
Do not question her love for you just because she is being hostile towards you. You have to accept that she is hostile BECAUSE of your actions. Do yourself a favour, give her time and leave her alone.
Give her space and tell her you are sorry. Thats all you can do. Ultimately its her decision, but honestly you havent given her a very good working model to base her decision on and you have to live with that and not question whether she really loves you or not.
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reader, Ask JenniHearts  +, writes (13 January 2009):
 i could tell you that all girls are different... i could tell you that all girls act this way when their hurt... and i could tell you that loving her may not be the only thing. but what i really want you to ask your self befor anything happens you can't control is."is it worth it?" i know this is hard expesally when you and her have been dating for 3 years but its a question that needs to be answered before you go on.
i've seen good men go down with this exact situation. don't be that guy.
im sorry i couldn't help more...
jenni hearts
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