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*atie Herbert
writes:I was with my boyfriend for two years and we had a pretty good sex life. After about a year of being together, I fell pregnant with his child. We both knew that we was too young to become parents, so we agreed on the decision to abort it. Unfortunatly we was very upset for quite a while after, but this was only expected. It's been over a year since I had the abortion, but ever since I can't climax anymore during sex. I would be ok with this, but I just don't really enjoy it anymore. I would put it down to emotional issues, but I'm really not upset anymore about what happened and I have moved on a lot since. I'm not with my boyfriend anymore, but am currently seeing someone else, where I have exactly the same problem. I just don't really enjoy sex anymore and find it in someways boring. Will it ever feel the way it used to? Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2010): You know abortion is a very hard thing to live with and even harder after it is done. I think that maybe you believe you are over it, but maybe you're not.
Aborting a child is a very emotional experience, I don't know if you were attached to the baby emotionally yet, but it's still a traumatic experience.
Perhaps you should seek some counseling about the subject and sex will feel the same eventually, but it sounds like your heart just isn't it to it from a deep seated fear of becoming pregnant again.
My thoughts on that are, if you aren't ready for a child or can't hold up to the consequences of having sex (pregnancy) then don't have sex. It's not the babies fault that you weren't ready to be parents yet and you killed the child, was adoption even considered?
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reader, Dady's little girl  +, writes (23 November 2010):
Well im ur age
i dont have the experience but i guess that i can answer u
cuz of what u faced , pregnancy and abortion and u still so young that caused fear inside u of beeing pregnant again and made an uncontroled reaction about this operation thought that u do not really feel it but its been created inside u
now i wanna ask u , what is sex all about ? share ur emotions with ur partener right? , be one body one soul one heart , if u love ur partenr think of the love that connecting u together
Try to improve ur r.ship spend more time together open ur heart to each other talk about ur problem with him im pretty sure that he is gonna help u and do all his efforts to make u enjoy sex with him, and try to 4get about the past and dont think about it again..
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