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30-35,
*HANTELLAH
writes:My boyfriend and I have been dated for six months,things were running smoothly as we wer so much inlove. I love him so much the problem is he nolonger treats me like before,evrything is changed,the communication is down,we dont see each other as we used to do. This confuses me and its hurting me so terribly,i am wondering if his feelings for me are gone..or if he has find a new girlfriend,my mind nolonger works as i am always thinking about him. I sent him messages he sometimes reply.i am wondering if our relationship will ever work out. I am so much inlove with him so loosing him will worsen things. Reply to this Question
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reader, Mosaic  +, writes (5 June 2012):
 im not trying to be mean when i say this. when people are in a new relationship things are fresh and new. but after a couple of months, sometimes weeks or days, people get used to eachother. in essence maybe the new girlfriend smell has worn off. in my opinnion this is when you find out what the relationship is made of. is it steel or is it straw. a relationship based on sex is almost alway built of straw. a relationship built on purely emotional attatchment is usualy made of straw aswell. a relationship built on ses and emotional attatchment is almost always built from steel. if hes a good guy hes just trying to figure the next step out. if hes not it is possible that he has found someone else. however if he is not dependant on you financialy then the chances of him having another girlfriend are lessend. most guys will go frome one girl to the next. not that many guys will have multiple partners at the same time. its easyer to just move to another woman with a new smell than it is to juggle two of them.(yeah i used to be a pig lol). if you are supporting him financialy he will be more likely to hold on to you and your finances as the reward is greater. that being said. it is unknow if he is cheating or not. if you truly love him as you say you do, then you should give him the benefit of the doubt. you will find out eventualy if hes cheating on you. but if hes not cheating on you and you smother him and constantly try to keep tabs on him. he will notice and become anoyed that you are pestering him and it will push him away which may lead him to leave. (if he truly loves you like you love him, he will stay as long as your faithful) thats all that really matters to a guy in love. hell tolerate alot of whining and nagging. however if you cheat he will feel deeply betrayd and find the door. and if he is cheating on you loosing him will not worsen things. you will be down for awhile. but as time passes you will forget his name and face and it will be replaced by another.
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