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writes:My boyfriend is a white supremicist. I am white but i have a very diverse family (my aunt, from my grandpa's first wife, is half black and he also has a son who is half mexican). He tells me he doesnt mind because he loves me and some of my family knows (not my aunt or uncle tho, but my grandpa does) and arent really upset they just make jokes about it. Things seem to be going fine, once and awhile we have dumb arguments about politics and what not (hes a socialist and im indifferent but dont really agree with some of the things he believes) but we usually get over it. Other than that though we are SO completely and utterly in love, everything else is PERFECT. Do you think that it is inevitable that the relationship wont work because our values are somewhat different??? PLEASE help sorry so long. thank you. Reply to this Question
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reader, Dawn_14 +, writes (15 February 2007):
 everyone has their differences and will argue from time to time. as long as it doesn't afffect your relationship or your family i think it will work out. so good luck!
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (15 February 2007):
 Relationships are hard enough when two people have the same values and beliefs. When you mix in bigotry and hatred from the get-go, you have a real uphill climb.
All I can say is good luck.
BTW, it's "mighty white" of him to love you in spite of your diverse family. LOL.
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (15 February 2007):
 I have strong leftish/liberal political convictions and have to be honest, I am not sure I could be in a relationship with somebody at the radically different end of the spectrum especially if they held those convictions strongly and were an activist for those views. Your convictions dont seem to be that strong, or at least strong enough to the point where you would fight or be an activist for them. This alone might mean your relationship could survive your different values. The one potential source of antagonism between him and your family seems to have been defused by mutual consent on both sides which is a good thing.
Part of me would love to say 'no, its the person that matters' but a persons values are part of who they are. Of course there is some seperation because people's values and political stances often change with experience (the experience of loving you might change him) but thats not always the case. It's impossible to say but I wish you luck.
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