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*ropical_girl23
writes:I really want my ex boyfriend to come back. He has told me before that during the course of our relationship that he likes a challenge and he that I gave him a challenge in the beginning.Due to his work schedule, we broke up. It caused alot of arguments and some really hurtful things were said and we separated. We are in the same school but don't have the same classes. My question is: For a guy who likes a challenge but does not like rejection, if I completely ignore him for a short while, will it be effective? How can I challenge him more?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2009): I know it hurts to hear people tell you to move on. I'm recently broken up and from reading blogs, realize that couples have way more problems, big and small, than we did. But what I can say is, if you stated you were just a challenge and now already 'conquered', then he is ridiculous! Relationships are to be engaging and special for both persons. If he does want you back, he would climb any mountain, overcome any obstacle to be with you alone. If he's not doing that, then the reality is, you are the one who wants the relationship back and not him. As much effort that you put into getting him back, or you did to please him and keep the relationship happy, believe me, there is another guy out there that wants to do the same for you and will treat you like a queen. It hurts to think about being with anyone else but, it's the truth. You know you can do and deserve better, and you will get it..Take Care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2009): To answer you question, yes, the more you ignore him, the more likely he will be to seek you out. But please remember, he will likely be doing this for all the WRONG reasons - to boost his ego, to engage in the challenge, etc. Once he gets your attention, he's just going to drop you, again. It's not worth it, honey. Men play these game when they really aren't interested in anything but their own ego.
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reader, ArmyMedic  +, writes (8 March 2009):
 Get a new nice guy and move on, maybe that challenge will give him the kick in the backside he needs and maybe in future will respect women a little more.
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reader, FroggieGman  +, writes (8 March 2009):
Ignore him and move on. Why in the world would wnat to live like this, afraid of doing or saying the wrong thing. It seems clear he doesn't give a sh*t about you. Stop lingering. Find a gentleman that will love and respect you abd all there is about you.
Good Luck
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