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writes:Hey everyone. I recently met this nice guy who I am starting to really like. He is ok in character and we have a lot in common. The problem is that I make way more money than him and I am thinking that it may be an issue if we were to start dating.and I don't think my friend and family will be very receptive of him because of the same. I know most people say money don't matter but I think that it may be a problem for us in future. I am asking for advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2013): Sure it could be in the future because you are talking about it now. You just said your family and friends are not going to be happy with a man who is poor. You just recently met him so
you can tell him sorry your not really my type and move on. I hope you do find somebody who has money though. I would hate to think what your family and friends would say. You have your own mind you make a clear decision on the issue. Admit it money is a issue with you so in the future when you screen a potential suitor there can be no doubt or question in your mind on the money issue.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2013): It does matter. You have to assume that you will be in some situations where you will not necessarily have his best interest in mind (e.g. when you are really angry). You will end up making decisions based on the real power in the relationship (cash flow/money, whatever you want to call it) to budget for / spend on whatever you want. He will end up having limited control over the resources, and unless he is submissive by nature, his ego will be hurt. You may have a very angry man on your hands at times.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (11 October 2013):
 in my culture while men prefer to make more than women, sometimes they don't.
i make more than my husband. I'm also older than he is. none of our friends even know or care what we make.
some men may feel emasculated by a woman with higher earnings than them. In my opinion, those are men that are too insecure with themselves to bother with anyway.
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