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writes:I'll try and keep this as short as possible.During high school, I had a massive crush on a close female friend of mine. We were good friends for a few years but I was never able to tell her how I felt, for two reasons. The first being that I was afraid she would reject me and it would make our friendship awkward, the second reason being that two of my other friends also were very intersted in her and neither of them knew I liked her too.She ended up moving interstate with her family in the final year of school, and we didn't really stay in touch as she got a new boyfriend when she moved etc.She recently moved back to our town by herself, having broken up with her boyfriend. I saw her at a party the other night, we reminisced a lot about our school life and such. At the end of the night I toughened up and got the guts to ask her out on a date, and to my surprise she actually said yes!The issue now is, my other two friends are angry at me. One thinks its rude of me to ask her out without running it by them first because they both apparently still have feelings for her too. The other friend is just really cut up by it because he was apparently planning on asking her out too.I've told them this is immature and it's just a simple date, and nothing else, but they're still acting childish and unhappy about it. I'm now not sure if its worth going on this date for.I really like this girl, but I can see that if a relationship did form with her, it's only going to cause trouble with my friends.Is there a way I can have my cake and eat it too here? Or am I actually going to have to choose between a girl and my friends?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2012): I think you just need to tell your mates to man up. It's not your fault they pussy-footed around for too long.
This isn't a case of Bros before Hos. This is a case of men acting like bloody five year olds. You might say, Arrested Development.
Their happiness is not up to you. It's up to them. If they can't get off their arse and seek out companionship, they have no right to complain when they lose their window.
Besides which... they'll get over it.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (5 February 2012):
 That's a very good question, but I think you've already made the choice. The question should have been asked before you asked her out. Now, it's in motion. Your friends are already angry, and going back on the date will not change it. All it will do is make your friends AND her angry.
Go through with the date. Your friends hadn't dated her, so you didn't step on anyone's toes int hat matter. You didn't steal her from a friend. They didn't ask fast enough, and in the end, it's her choice anyway.
Be good to your friends, but you've already made the decision to pursue this girl. I suggest you follow through now.
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