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*x-Ellie-xX
writes:well.. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly two years now.. We're both seventeen. I love him very much and I can't imagin life without him. I get on on with him better than anyone else.. Everythings perfect except one thing! In recent months I have starred feeling jealous with him and other girls.. He lies a good bit but I don't think that's a real reason to be jealous. I don't know why I'm jealous but it's really bad and it causes a fights.. I can't help it though and I can't ignore it, I've been trying to get over it but I can't. Any advice on what I should do? I don't want to break up, but I can't help this jealous feeling I always get!! Will I grow out if it in A few more months?? Thank you!! X
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reader, Xx-Ellie-xX +, writes (18 October 2009):
Xx-Ellie-xX is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the advice! i have tried talking to him about the lying before, and he said he wont lie again, but after all the previous lying i dont know if i can trust him. things were alot better in our 1st years together, but now im thinking i might have to break it off.. whats a relationship without trust
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (18 October 2009):
 If he's lied to you, especially where other girls are concerned then subconsciously you are wondering what else is he lying about? You are jealous because you feel he is hiding things from you, things that could involve other girls and this mistrust you are having, is at the root of your jealousy. Actually in my opinion, jealousy is a healthy thing. I've been in relationships where I felt loved and respected and I never felt jealous about what that person was doing when we were apart; I never felt threatened by other women no matter how pretty they were because I felt like I was his #1. I've also been with guys who made me a crazy jealous bitch. Why? Because of the way they treated me, always acting like their eyes were on the door, always snapping their head to look at another woman, acting like I couldn't leave them alone in the same room with my best friend if she was at all attractive. Those kind of men will always make a woman feel threatened and jealous. And some men thrive on it as a form of control, or detachment. A man like that is not usually too serious about being with just one woman anyhow, and it gives him the perfect excuse to bail on the relationship and blame it on you. You mind as well learn these signs now, instead of later so you won't spend countless hours feeling bad about yourself and blaming yourself when a guy doesn't measure up to YOUR standards.
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