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writes:im working with a guy ive become extremely close to. we've worked together 8 months-clicked from the start and he feels the same we're really good friends and get on so well. i like him a lot-adore him even everytime i see him i get that shivery feeling i really like him.heres whats worrying me his wife left 8 months ago-ran off with another guy and my friend is extremely fragile-having work counselling im supporting him and am always there for him and he has said that too.. im upset though because i dont know if hes lying to me over certain things eg he says he owns 3 properties-alla broad-he has 4 kids from 2 relationships and i says he had 60,000 saved up yet he slips up like the other day he said he was broke til payday ? its hurting me that i like him so much yet i cant understand the need to lie could anyone help me please-im never going to know the truth Reply to this Question
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (21 March 2010):
 Actions speaks louder than words. He could be a habitual lier. Some men like to lie to puff up their ego's and self esteem.
You will have to be like a lawyer and asked and asked those same question over and over again over a period of time to determine if they are the truth or not.
If he lies , he will forget the 1st lie and tell another lie.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2010): It's easy. You just have to trick him when he doesn't realize it. Ask him the odd question here and there, maybe every few days apart, when you talk, and play stupid and pretend you don't know certain things when really you're tying them together with other pieces of information you already know about him. He won't know a thing, if you're careful enough and act serious. Ask him outright things about his money or properties or about his kids or past relationships. Get last names from him and research things if you wish. Make it so one answer might just contradict another one. It seems extreme, but get the facts before you possibly become the fourth ill-fated relationship.
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reader, Entirely Unique  +, writes (21 March 2010):
 Is that the only example of slipping up? I know sometimes people have money in savings and still state they're broke because they don't count their savings.
Maybe in a way he's trying to impress you, I'd talk to him, make sure he knows you are there for him and don't need impressing and find out the truth.
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