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writes:dear cupid. i will never know what sex is like because i've no chance of ever getting a girlfriend there is something about me that puts them off i can't tell you what it is because i don't know not one woman will tell me when i ask them. anyway alot of women ignore me. and what have i got to offer women apart from myself Reply to this Question
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reader, Gandalfrex  +, writes (6 August 2010):
First of all, it's clearly your lack of confidence that puts women off. never ask a woman what's wrong with you - it is a sure fire way for her to have zero interest in you. If you so deseperatley want to know what sex is like... well, then there is always "professional" help...
But I'm sure you could hook up if you just acted cool and focused on the women instead of yourself and what you think is wrong with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2010): Perhaps it's the asking women what's wrong with you is what's putting them off.
Seriously I'm not kidding. A guy that would ask a woman that is unsure of them self. Even your question has a stench of insecurity and no confidence from it.
Right Dating 101:
-First and foremost, stop focusing on the negative, stop focusing what on puts women off and start focusing on what they want instead. No one is perfect and there are things about all of us that are potential turn offs. The trick is to highlight your positive attributes in a way that they overshadow anything negative and that all begins with attitude.
-Here's what women want and it's not a secret because we men want it too. Confidence, self assured, self belief, a shared sense of humour (you don't have to be funny to everyone just the woman in question), clean, well groomed and to a certain degree well dressed. Finally they want a man that will go for it, a man that will treat them respectfully but will also make the move and ask them out.
That's it! Really that's all. Everything else is down to personal taste, looks are not important because I can guaratee you there are women out there that find you attractive.
I'm nowhere near a Brad Pitt lookalike but I'm confident, self assured and when it comes to women I don't, think I act. If they're not interested, I thank them for their time, say it nice to meet you and move on. I never doubt myself, I never doubt my attractiveness, I never doubt that there are women out there that want to be with me, I never let even the slightest bit of doubt creep in at all.
Nothing I've said is any kind of secret, there is no magical formula or trick to getting with a woman but you have to get rid of the notion that you want a girlfriend.
Because you're skipping the fun part which is dating, making a new friend. You're putting pressure on yourself that way and you're also putting a lot of expectation on any woman that you find attractive.
Just start focusing on building your confidence and self belief, work out if you don't like you body, read more if you think you have nothing interesting to say. Keep telling yourself you have what women want, not all women but the ones that do want you are the only ones that matter in this case. Above all just keep trying, don't take rejection as a defeat, take it as another opportunity to hone to your skills. And for god sake just enjoy yourself, dating is fun even the bad parts are fun because they're part of the process.
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reader, xAx +, writes (6 August 2010):
 The only adive i can give you from what you told me is that you should take really good care of yourself. Follow fashion more so that you look good. Buy nice aftershave so that you smell nice. Style your hair etc. Make sure you are nice, but not too nice to women( so don't try too hard/ give the impression of wanting sex) and compliment women.
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