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writes:Hi everyone. My question is will I ever get my self esteem back and if so how? I'll tell you how it was destroyed.I noticed that recently some people have mentioned being bullied at schol on this site and thats what happened to me - I was bullied by this lardo at school physically and mentally. That made me feel less confident around friends and it made me feel like they didn't want me around. The other thing is that I was at a club with some friends a month ago and someone stabbed me with a needle (since it was dark I don't know) hence this might result in me getting HIV and/or hepititis. This hasn't helped because I had to spend a few hours on my own in the early hours in A+E before getting checked and two of my friends eventually found me. I now have to wait 2 months before I can get tested for HIV so this is now causing a strain on my self esteem and my optimism.
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reader, --Nicki-- +, writes (2 July 2006):
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Well we have all be bullied before… Its no fun is it! I used to be bullied a lot and thought that I could never get my self-esteem back but now I’m more confident and happy than I have even been before. Just give it time, ignore them and show that you don’t care (even if you do… try hide it) I know it will be very hard to ignore them but they will get bored and move onto their next victim.
I’m glad that you went to A+E to get it checked out rather than leaving it until the day you find out you might have something and its too late to do anything about it! Try and relax and clear your mind, just wait until you get the results, there’s not point in worry about something that you might not even have but do prepare yourself when you get the results encase there is bad news… But lets just keep thinking positive!!
Talk to your friends, that’s what friends are for right? I’m sure they will be willing to help you thought the tough times! It’s always good to keep your friends and family close to you. I really hope everything works out for you!!!
My Best Wishes
Nicki xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2006): OH my goodness, I'm so sorry to hear that...but there are two way too separate issues here...I think being bullied would be a lousy experience to ahve to go through, because I've definetly been bullied before, but my goodness, being stabbed with a needle? I would say I would be worried too! Why do you ahve to wait two months? Is it ebcause iyou still ahve to give your body time to build up antibodies so they will show up on your blodd test (if you even ahve it)? I can't imagine how you must eb feeling, but I could see why it is causing a strain on your emotions...I'm not sure hwo old you are, but is it possible for you to go see a school counselor or perhaps a counseling center in your campus? You know, there are loys a lot of phone numbers you can call to help you get in touch with professionals who can help you---like HIV counselors or places where you can get tested: because I do know that there is also a swab test where a nurse or doctor will take a swab on the inside of your mouth and you get results in two weeks or you can get a blood test and ahve the results in 20 minutes...yet, I think a docot may have already told you to wait two weeks before gettting tested to amke sure you ahve the antibodies so you don't get a false negative? In any case, I'd call any one of these numbers and just get as much information as you can, and talk with your parents too. I think during this time, I would focus more on your health and get that squared away, whether it be setting up an appointment to get tested or talking to an HIV counselor the websites that I include here will help you find hotlines for HIV in your state. Even though if you end up having HIV it would take an emotional toll , fo course, I would want to at least know if I ahve that or not before dealing with the bully situation. Yet, if you do end up having it, it's not your fault...it's not like you knowingly had unprotected risky sex or borrowed a friend's needle to shoot up drugs..this was a very bizarre thing that happened to you, so I would try to keep that in perspective: many people ahve HIV and lead normal lives, and talking to a counselor will definetly help you better deal with this and alos with building up your self esteem--take one thing at a time, and I hope everything works out for you, be strong. http://www.aidsmeds.com/lessons/HIVtests.htm
http://www.thebody.com/hotlines/state.html
http://www.doe.state.in.us/sservices/hivaids_cdchotline.html
http://www.ashastd.org/sitemap.cfm
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