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writes:Help, I've only ever had 1 boyfriend at the age of 24 and it lasted only 5 weeks, he broke it off with me though, he was the one who made the first move and ended it through text saying I need someone on my own level and he did not feel the same, plus thing is I find it really hard to meet guys who like me and I cant tell if i do. I think I'm really ugly because of this even and the fact I've never had a proper boyfriend, though my friends say I'm pretty, I don't believe them and I'm beginning to feel left out as all my close mates have boyfriends any advice? thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2008): oh my god your story really gets to me and i feel sorry and sad for ya. You're PRETTY!!! your friends have told you so!! now believe it! and have confidence in yourself it's the only way to get the guy whose right for you and that guy just hasnt found you yet. Don't take yourself too seriously, tell me more about yourself like are you shy? cos that's been my biggest problem for finding a boyfriend, i'm unapproachable. People say im pretty too and i dont believe them either, and i dont have a boyfriend so it's got to have something to do with your personality probably, BUT DONT CHANGE for ANYONE...like i said mr right hasnt found you just yet. Take my advice and have a bit more self-confidence and you wont have to wait much longer.
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (9 February 2008):
 Dr. Vendetta-you have a right to be angry with women. I wonder why I am attracted to these uncaring men. I don't think I thought they be uncaring in the beginning. We have these fantasies of how good they will be and it never works out that way. Go ahead and take your anger out on me but know we also feel like idiots when we stick around with these jerks. These jerks who dump us and then our self esteem suffers.
Lately I have noticed that people don't seem to be into dating. There is all this computer corresponding and people seem to have replaced being with people with writing on-line. This is not good.
I don't think you should focus on whether or not you have a boyfriend but whether or not you are living a good and fulfilling life. If you forget about having a boyfriend, one will pop into your life when you aren't looking. Be happy with who you are, enjoy the company of good friends. A few places to meet men, the grocery store on a Saturday morning; The Home Depot on a Saturday morning; the golf course-try golfing too; eat at a restaurant alone-you'd be surprised who else is eating alone-bring a book.
Good luck. I can't find anyone either-to Vendetta's point-worth a hoot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2008): Do you know what?
Most girls who find the right man is probably because they believe in themselves.
Saying you are ugly wont help your self-esteem! And if friends say you arent, why dont you believe them?
It can be hard, with others having boyfriends, and put the pressure on you, but you WILL find the right person soon.
Just get out there and have fun, join a new club or sport.
Love also comes when you least expect it, so focus on other things.
And remember, Believe in yourself!
x
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (8 February 2008):
 Welcome to my world. I'm 25 and never had a relationship. I'm not ugly. though I did think that for a while. Then I see some people/couples out there and.. it really makes you wonder wtf is wrong with people.Theres no accounting for taste.I guess I'm the wrong person to dish out advice here because I'm just angry and bitter at women being stupid over who they have a relationship with. (ie abusive relationships or the boyfriend doesn't give a rats ass about the girl)
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