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writes:Thank you for posting this site. I came across your this site by chanced as I am looking for a answer to my problem and hoping to get some help.Is there any case near similar to mine? Being involved with married man. We are both in love but he is too afraid and too worry to get things out of control since he holds quite a respectable position in the company he works for. He is afraid he lost his respect and job. Some companies have strick rules and guidelines. We are not colleague.He is in denial of our relationship when my belonging was found in his apartment recently. She has since not spoken much.My question is, there any chance for me to lookup in your site to help me find a solution.He is not happy with his relationship. His wife of 35 years has grown cold. They have children of 25 and 28 years old. When the children were young he has fallen in love with another women and left he family but went back because of the children. So, this relationship is not his first.Will his wife leave him? How can I make him realize Happiness is to love and beloved. I can see it in his eyes that he is not a happy man but by circumstances he stay for the sake of him promises. Till Death Do Us Part.Is it fair for both us?Please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2008): Trust me he will never leave his wife. I had been in a relationship with a married man for 4 years. I was his love, his baby, the person he wanted no one to hurt.
When our relationship became a threat to his marriage he ended our relationship so upbruptly I did not know what hit me.
Wake up!!!!!! They do not leave their wives, we deserve a full relationship where they are there when we go to bed and there when we wake up.
They lie to keep us hanging on. As for the lady keeping all the proofs WAKE UP the wives do not care. Why want someone that denied all that we thought was real. It was not, it hurts, however, we must move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2007): Why must his wife do the leaving? He could have left her himself many years ago if he actually wanted to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2007): I'm head over heals in love like you with a married man who feels the same for me . The only way I will ever get him is for our affair to be found out by his wife which is the only reason I am persisting seing him, I keep all the dirty sms and mms messages he sends me so that when she confronts me (I know he will deny all with me - I wont though) I can show her the hard proof and with any luck he will have to come to me when she kicks him out. Bad I know but when you love someone and you know they want you if it wasn't for their circamstances you just gotta play tactical.
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reader, got some sense now  +, writes (23 September 2007):
I am glad you asked this question. I am in your shoes. The only difference is I have come to the light. I dont mean that to offend you , but I have come to realize that no matter how bad the situation is at home, they never leave. I had an affair with a married man for the last 3 years and it just came to abrubt end. Dont get me wrong, we were doing all of the things that lovers do. We were in love, but the bigger picture was that he had a family and I was the other woman. His wife knew that he was cheating, she came up to our job and embarrased both of us on two seperate occassions (did I mention that we work together?) and she also showed up at my house because did not want to lose him and it was at that point that I realized that someone else was hurting because of me. I came to the realization that I am better than that. Now, I am hurting and going through a sad time in my life but it is going to pass. I work with this man. I have to see his face everyday and that makes it even harder. I have to deal with the thoughts that come in my head of him having sex and lying in the bed with her. That is the hardest part. You say that he left his wife earlier in life only to go back to her. That in itself says a lot. Married men never leave their wives. Dont allow yourself to be get hurt and be hurt. I hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2007): Simple, he wont leave his wife,most 90 percent of the time,men will not over exert themselves,to the point of finicial bliss.
Men feel they have worked all their lives to get what they have,yeah the sex with you is good,fun, he even has feelings maybe,but he still feels why throw away 30 years of work for that.
Besides the fact leopards dont loose their spots ever.
He cheated on his wife with you,you are not the first or the last he will be with simple as that.
I married the guy,who left his wife for me,holy hect 18 years and i couldnt wait for my kids to grow up and go ,so i could pack and run.He cheated on me 4 times,i stayed for my kids.
I divorced,got mixed up with another man,who i find is married later,i break it off with him,mutual by the way.He was with someone else a month later,then he ask eventally to come back with me,and i said no.
My experiances suggest,he cheated on his wife with you,he will be with another as soon as you say im outta here,no matter what he says his feelings are for you.
Run,and run fast is all i can say.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2007): Men who are married usually DON'T leave their wives - no matter how much they tell the other woman how unhappy they are and that they will get separated and get divorced.
Why should he leave? He has you on the side and a wife at home to cook and look after him. Nor is he willing to risk losing his job.
Sorry to say, when you told us some of your belongings were found in his apartment, and he denied everything, that right there tells you all you need to know. Which is: you are wasting your time!
His wife deserves better and so do you! Let him go!
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reader, leanne.od  +, writes (20 September 2007):
 and you beleive you will make a difference? he is obviously incapable of holding down a relationship and you are one in a long list of girls no doubt.
his wife deserves the truth and you deserve better.
run a million miles in the opposite direction!
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reader, Gemini1506 +, writes (20 September 2007):
Give him time its seems like a soft spot for him. He shouldnt really be doing what he's doing with you whether he's happy or not with his wife. Think of her they may not be as in love as before but it is a very hard thing to go through.
You may love him but you shoould give him a break to see what he really wants. And if he is true to you he'll realise how much he loves you and leave his wife
Best of Luck
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