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writes:I need some advice.I am a few years older than my boyfriend, and I have a child. I left my husband for this man, and for this reason ( and for the ones named above), his parents refuse to accept me. He is also from a different culture, and this is yet another reason why they (especially his mother) will not accept me. We've been together for a year now, and I fear they will never come around. He is close to his parents and he values their opinion...yet refuses to leave me. I just want to be accepted, and given a chance. Can anyone help me please?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2009): i understand what your going through. Im in a similer situation. Im 2 years older than my boyfriend, though i dont have any children, and his parents pratically refuse to accept me. they even complained about me to my parents. keep in mind that im only 16, makeing him 14, they told my mom "shes a WOMAN! and my sons only 16!" and my moms like "what the h-...shes only 16!" [god i swear] . they dont like my style or how i look [im emo...and i express that strongly]. their like "shes too flamboyant with her hair...my son would NEVER dress like that!" and crap like that... one time...i wore less eyeliner [i had bleached out my hair so i couldnt wear so much] and their like "seeeeee you look so much better with less makeup on." im like thinking "WTF?"
im still trying to find an answer to that question myself, which is how i found ur question. sorry i couldn't help...just wanted to let u know ur not alone...
ill prey for you.
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reader, Arianz  +, writes (26 December 2008):
 Dear,
1st of all they from different culture so it will hard to make them impress. Cause US culture can accepte ur condition but for other culture ur issue is different.
U talk to ur boyfriend with understanding mind. Tell him ur feelings also try to manage him to make a meeting with his parents. But u have to make them understand that u will be very good for him and u nevar gonna leave him for another guy.
but remember few things that Nevar make him away from his parents (it will effect bad at future). try ur best to get togather.
At end if they will not agree then, better give the choise to ur boyfriend. ANd i hope u will repect his decision.
best of luck
take care
arianz
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reader, treats +, writes (26 December 2008):
there's really nothing you can do to force them to accept you and your past. you can only talk to the man you're with to get him to try to talk to his parents. I understand he doesn't want to be disloyal to his parents for your sake. all he can do is talk to his parents for you and maybe arrange for them to meet you and hopefully, they'll be happy to meet someone who adores the son the way u seem to.
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