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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:hii am into relationship with this guy 4 d last 2 1/2 yrs and though he really luvs me, he dont want 2 express it...i dunno y...but sometimes i really like being pampered n told that he luvs me.... he has been maintaining d same romance frm d start....bt i feel tht i dont get d attention i deserve....hes busy all the time with his friends...wasting time...i dont object his spending time with friends...but i expect a little quality time with me....not thats what gets me arguing with him....hes really sweet...he never shouts at me....but still he doesnt understand my point....he stays with his friends in another state n i stay with my parents....so its hard for me 2 take out time n meet him....but he never thinks abt me....he jus expects me 2 meet him wen he wants 2 ( say around 5 in the morning....or at any odd time he wants) but wen i ask him 2...hes busy... ( busy: playing cricket, basktball, boozing out with friends etc etc)..i wouldn't mind his being busy...if hes really doing something important...but hes actually wasting time n money....n i really want him 2 concentrate on his career...i dnt nag about it but still hes not serious about it....i dont know how 2 approach him about this...i dnt want 2 fight on this!!!i knw tht my parents r nt gonna approve our relationship unless hes got a gr8 career...bt this guy isnt least bothered....what 2 do?!?!i m in a way more settled than him....n this makes him more insecure if i talk about his career...!
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reader, Arianz  +, writes (26 December 2008):
 Dear sis,
1st:
If u love him then his career shouldn't be a big deal to you. that is call DEEP LOVE how far i know. As a GF u can run for him, u care him, u love him more then he does.
2nd:
U want to make him serious about his career then better call him in the early morning but with a serious voice then tell him to come then tell him everything(ur expectation from him) with very sad mood(i didnt mean shouting mood) it should be slow, polite, caring voice.
U r a girl if he loves u then it will very easy for u to make him undestand.
so please try to cope up with him i hope and i belive that u can do it.
wish u all the best
take care
arianz
(hey friend let us know wat happen)
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