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writes: Quick question - at what point do you discuss your attitude to marriage in a relationship? I know it seems a ‘how long is a piece of string’ question but if before you get in a relationship one of you casually mentions they would like to get married one day and the other wants to but since a relationship breakup is off the idea, would you pursue a relationship? You both have strong feelings for each other, but you may not be in the same page regarding marriage. He said he definitely wants to get married but since his relationship breakup his view has changed and I am not sure if it is a reaction to this that he may get over or if it has changed his views permanently. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2006): I am the poster of the question. His previous relationship lasted 4 1/2 years, she was his first love and they were engaged but it turned out she had been cheating on him and was constantly lying to him so I can understand to some degree if he would be off the idea of marriage because of his fear of it happening again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2006): You have to be very careful here because if he really was affected by the breakup of his previous relationship he would not be with you right now but still crying over split milk. Now he is with you so it means he is already getting over his ex,so all his energy should be chanelled towards this new relationship and stop making excuses.I would say think hard about what you want and not what he wants.If you want to accept this lame excuse fine,but if its not what you want move on.
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reader, sugapuff  +, writes (13 September 2006):
 only he can tell you 4 sure! try bring it up casually maybe a general conversation in a group setting and see what he has to say? he might be more honest in a situation like this!
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (13 September 2006):
 I think this is only temporary especially if the break up is still fresh. Give him some time and he will change his view. People sometimes let their emotions override their rational thinking. He's just turned off the whole thing right now but he will change his mind if your relationship blossoms into something really special. Good Luck.
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