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writes:I wrote this tonight. It's about a guy that I really like. I am fourteen and he's seventeen. When we met we clicked right away, I am falling for him, and I know that he is too, but he thinks the age difference is a big concern. Should I show this to him, What's your opinion about it?The thing is, I barely know you / Only learned your name several hours before / I started to adore you, damn, I couldn't ignore you./ Ever since then I have wanted more.I waited for the phone calls./ Missed you when I just met you. / I always wanted to see you. / Why was I the one to fall for you /Baby listen, I know / We both have past lovers / A past without one another / But babe, I could write down a million things / I'd do to treat you rightI know you think i'm to young for us to be together. / But i'd be the one, the one to treat you better / I want to be the reason for your happiness / The reason you smile, I'd love to see that smileJust one more time. The one that caught my eye / The smile so flawless it makes me shy / I know you think i'm to young for us to be together./But i'd be the one, the one to treat you better.I don't care where you are. Far or near / Let me be clear, I'll always be here. / When you think you have nobody / I'll be the one to prove you wrongI'll be the one to have loved you all alongBaby listen, I know / We both have past lovers / A past without one another / But babe, I could write down a million things / I'd do to treat you right / I know you think i'm to young for us to be together. / But i'd be the one, the one to treat you betterI'll be the one to prove you wrong / I'll be the one to have loved you all alongloved you all alongloved you all alongloved you all alongloved you all along
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2008): You're very young and your poem reflects that. Of course, you have talent, and I see you like it. But ask youserf, do you like poetry or do you like that guy? I'd recomend you to get cultured and read more GOOD poetry. When you go to college, then perhaps you will be able to write publishible poems. Another remark. In a counple of months you won't even remember who this guy was.
So, read more. you can't write good poetry if you don't read it first.
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reader, daletom +, writes (30 July 2008):
By the way - your question says you're 14, but the profile information says "age 22 - 25". Is someone pretending to be somebody he/she isn't? That's not good for any relationship, at any age.
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reader, daletom +, writes (30 July 2008):
I'm impressed by your writing. I have no credentials as a literary analyst, so I won't say that it's in the same league as "Song of Solomon" or "Romeo and Juliet" but it's nothing to be ashamed of. I don't think it's either creepy or cute, but it IS rather personal and intimate. And it's worth saving.
Speaking as a male guy person of the masculine sex - be careful about showing it to "the guy". Whether he is 17 or 57 (like me), he will almost certainly find it uncomfortable, and maybe even threatening, unless there really is a mutual feeling of intimacy and love already established between you two. And - speaking as a parent - suddenly opening up to him like this makes you vulnerable to being hurt.
If you want to impress him with something romantic, consider this idea: Make a copy of your poem, perhaps on fancy paper or one of those greeting cards with a blank inside where the verse is usually printed. Seal it in an envelope and mail it to yourself. If you take it to a Post Office and ask for a hand-cancellation it will have a very prominent postmark date on it. When it arrives, save it - I'd say at least until Christmas time, or even next summer. If you two are still strongly attracted to each other then, you can present it to him. The postmark proves when you actually wrote the piece. Keep in mind that guys, especially 17-year old guys, aren't nearly as impressed by romantic things as you are so he won't drop to his knees and declare perpetual love for you.
The fact that he is concerned about "the age difference" may show that he is mature and wise - which, in turn, makes you all the more attracted to him. Or, he may be trying to politely tell you he's not interested without hurting you. (And, to be honest, that kind of concern for you is yet another reason you may be attracted to him.)
I DO believe that 14-year olds and 17-year olds can be emotionally attached to each other, and even love each other. I won't dismiss what you are feeling by saying that it's "only infatuation" - I don't know if that's true or not. But it hasn't yet become the sort of love that binds people as life-partners, though it may become that. For that matter neither of you has yet become the adult person that you will be. (I don't mean that comment to be the least bit insulting, it's just a statement of where you are in your lives.)
Among my acquaintances are couples who met when they were about your age and have experienced a fulfilling relationship of many decades. You might become such a couple. Learn about each other, especially your similarities and differences to other people around you. That means you'll have to become acquainted with other people at more than a superficial level so "going steady" or other exclusive arrangements probably aren't wise yet.
It's probably another 3 or 4 years before you should even consider adding sex to your relationship. And 5 years or more before you enter marriage, living together, or other lifetime commitments. In the intervening time you may grow closer and more attached. That would be my wish for you. Or, you may mature into different people than what you are now and decide the attraction isn't there. That can be painful but many of us can look back, without regret or bitterness, and cherish the months or years when we loved a wonderful person who is no longer in our lives, but for whom we wish only the best.
Live life as it comes to you - and enjoy it!
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reader, KiaGrace  +, writes (30 July 2008):
 I think you have amazing talent! You should definetly keep writting thats forsure, now about showing it to the guy you love. Maybe instead of you taking credit for the poem, you can be like, "I found this, and it kind of reminds me of you" So, he won't be able to think, "omg this is creepy!" Even if you did show it to him, I think he'd think it was cute, cause I've heard lots of stories of you and him, (through our messages) but yeah!
Keep writting forsure!
ALLLLL MY LOVE GIRL!
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (30 July 2008):
Well it depends how long you have been going out. If it's been a week then yes it may seem creepy, if it's been a few months then perhaps not.
Why don't you save it for his birthday or anniversary and then you could write it up neat, or print it out, and put it in a frame and give it to him then.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2008): hey dont worry ya....
just speak to him frankly... and if he too has feelings for you he'll surely be yours....
ALL THE BEST.... ill pray for u
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