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writes: My boyfriend and I have been together for a little more than year a half. We are both almost thirty and will actually be moving together within the next month. We love each other very much and we already say out loud or through text from a year ago ago how I love you forever and ever etc. I saw on his pone history that he was looking at different engagment rings. It made me very excited. I was overly curious and looked to see if he had still been browsing and he hasn't searched for any of that since the first time which was over a week ago.Is this a sign maybe he changed his mind and won't be doing it anytime soon? I thought maybe he would still be continuing his search but it was basically just that one time.Do you think he will still propose within the next few months?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (22 May 2014):
 Maybe he has no intentions of proposing at all and was looking at a ring a friend asked him to look at?
See the error in your ASSUMPTION?
the ONLY way to know what he's thinking is to ASK him.
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reader, celtic_tiger  +, writes (22 May 2014):
 This is the problem with snooping on someone's phone - you potentially get the wrong end of the stick and blow something up out of all proportion without knowing all the facts. You don't know if it was even him searching, perhaps it was a friend sending him a link asking his opinion for someone else?!
Have you discussed marriage with your boyfriend?
Have you discussed your expectations from your relationship and how you see a marriage working?
Ultimately no one knows how he is thinking. The fact you are moving in together shows he is committing to you. He might be thinking about making your relationship more "official" but that is not to say he will ask any time soon.
He might have been browsing and looking to see what was out there - how many men have any idea about jewellery styles?! He might have been looking at cost - how much will he have to save up to buy something like that?
I would say, you need to be careful. Now you have seen this, you are already jumping to conclusions and you are going to be reading something into everything he does, rightly or wrongly. He will ask if and when he is ready. The more you stress, wind yourself up, wonder, or potentially nag him about this, the less likely he will.
There are two issues here for me:
1. Why were you looking at his search history on his phone?
2. Do you trust him?
If you do trust him, don't snoop. Trust him to ask you to marry him when the time is right.
Curiosity killed the cat, as the saying goes.
Just relax and let it happen in it's own time.
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