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writes:Men are so difficult to understand! Iv been trying to hint to this guy i like for a while now- i even tried talking to other people on a night out to make it look like i could be more than a shy girl around him. This worked well and had him coming to talk to me. Then the anti-climax. Nothing happened. We came close a few times but he lost his nerve turning a reach for my hand or leg into a leg scratch. We were sat down at a musical at the time. Im so confused! Will he ever do anything?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI wouldn't say he was cold it's stranger than that. Some days we're really close but then others I feel like I'm being ignored. It's very strange. I mean the other day I kept getting this strange... um I'm asuming an attempt at trying a smouldering look which was more funny than sexy although I didn't dare laugh.
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reader, Blackbird86  +, writes (17 October 2009):
If he is giving out cold vibes then maybe you should move on. However, you said that he tried to touch your leg so I am guessing he likes you but is very unsure of himself. Your in a hard place because you are debating what you should or should not do and say. But, if this is to get any resolution one of you will have to be a little bit more courageous and give your relationship a nudge. You could just tell him that you like him and enjoy spending time together; that might make him more confident.But again, if you feel cold vibes, and that he doesn't have interest that you think he should have...cut him loose. Hope everything works out for you. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI did start to do that- i mean our legs were pretty much touching between the seats and when I noticed his hand i did move mine closer but then I chickened out. I've tried to give him the picture but he seems well.... like a brick!It's as if we're that comfortable being friends that it may be too difficult to take that next step. we only really see each other at university except for this trip to the capital. If I'm just imagining his behaviour and he's sick of me hanging out with him he is sure giving off the wrong signals!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI did start to do that- i mean our legs were pretty much touching between the seats and when I noticed his hand i did move mine closer but then I chickened out. I've tried to give him the picture but he seems well.... like a brick!It's as if we're that comfortable being friends that it may be too difficult to take that next step. we only really see each other at university except for this trip to the capital. If I'm just imagining his behaviour and he's sick of me hanging out with him he is sure giving off the wrong signals!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2009): I think Blackbird's right. He may just be unsure of things, and not know if it's something you want or not. Or here's a thought... maybe he just respects you and wants to take it slowly. Men can be just as unsure, insecure and confused about situations like this as women. "Does she like me, doesn't she?" "Does she want me to do that, doesn't she?" Just don't write him off or assume he's not intereseted just because he hasn't pounced on you yet. If you like him give him time. And don't be afraid to give him a bit of encouragement.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (17 October 2009):
 The next time you talk to him, touch him a few times on the arm and hand. Laugh a lot and look happy. If he doesn't get it after that the dude is a virtual brick, LOL!
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reader, Blackbird86 +, writes (17 October 2009):
He could be really nervous. Imagine him saying to himself, "Oh my God...I really want to kiss her. Wait, should I? What if it is too soon? Wait, maybe just touch her leg...then maybe she will do something..."
I know it sounds funny but guys are really uncertain about things like this. Even when we girls think we make it so obvious that they have a green light, they still question it. So...when he puts his hand on your leg, or tries, make an equal contribution and stroke his arm or get a little closer to him for a cuddle.
So, my advice: action for action and he will get the message you are open to more.
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