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51-59,
*rowneyedgrl
writes:My boyfriend has been in prison since January 2, 2010. His parole hearing is coming up next month. He was on parole before I met him. The first two years of our relationship he has done great. Had a really good job and always was very helpful and supportive of me and the kids. Here is the deal....he can have a couple of beers and be fine. Whiskey on the other hand is a different story. He got into a fight and he had been drinking so that is why he is away right now. Coping with him being gone has been up and down. I have wanted to bail a couple of times. I have never been in this situation before. I have read so many stories about how men in prison will stay anything to make you stay. Well his time is almost up. I do have worries that he might drink again. I dont think he will at first until he gets comfortable with being free again. How do you know for sure?? Just needing some advice..
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (11 July 2010):
I will say this to you. It could be that this is a problem that escalated so much that he has changed because of prison. However, I'm very sceptical of people changing (it takes years, not just a few months), so I would be very wary of him as to whether he's changed.If you have decided to stay with him, then I think you need to tell him that he can never drink again. I think as a show, he needs to completely give this up. The beer, the whiskey, the lot. If he wants to change, he must give it up, and he must know that you will not tolerate any more drinking. At all. If he so much as sniffs a bottle of whiskey, then you need to end it. You'll never know for sure whether he will change, but if he quits the drinking and makes effort, then it's likely he will. But I think you have every right to ban him from drinking permanently. And I think if he doesn't, you'll know he will do it again. And remember, that's if you decide to stay.
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