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writes:hiii i hav with this guy for 2years....we ae in ldr met once in a couple of months.... basically he is possesive guy orthodox believes in "one gal for me policy" ...never let me to talk to guys ( i m ok with it ).... he takes care for my protection and loves me so much now i m upset because he started eathching porns and turned weird...he asked for ( two days back ) my fanstasy in bed...... i told him watever i wanted to do....( threesome blah blah ) he is saying that i can sleep with anyone .....he has desires like this too.....i m upset and worried for him he is serious and making arrangements for things to happen.....what should i do now ???is it ok to do like this i feel guilty ???note:- back 3 months my bf spoke to 2 girls to flirt with them ....i m nervous will he ditch me???
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (10 March 2014):
 If you have to ask if it's okay to proceed, then it means you are not ready to do it. Threesomes are only fun when you are single, not attached, and has no one to worry about. He told you he could do anything, so it negates what he said early about one gal policy. So he no longer views you as serious girlfriend. He can't hold it over your head because he's doing it in real life while you just expressed your fantasy. You should ditch him because he is being double standard here. Whether he ditches you or not, he is not good for you because he is being a hypocrite also. People don't turn weird because of porn. He is justifying an open relationship with or without your approval, which probably doesn't matter because it seems like you don't even have a voice in the relationship. Having desires while being in a long term relationship doesn't mean you have to act on them, especially desires that could shake a relationship.
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