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reader, Basschick  +, writes (6 December 2011):
 Don't waste your time waiting. Your life is worth more than to be dangling on a string for some guy who already has someone in his bed every night. Find a single guy who really wants you and only you.
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reader, natasia  +, writes (21 November 2011):
 We gave you our advice - let go. You don't want to do that. So ok. Hold on. Wait. See what happens. Probably heartache for you, and for her, but hey. That's life.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (21 November 2011):
 no it's not worth waiting for him
again ... what will you do in 10 years when he wants to leave you for the new and improved model?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni know this guy for a while. and we get to close to each other... and i learn to love him more each day pass by. but it really hard for him to chose because he loves us both.. Im willing to wait do you think its worth waiting for him. i feel he love me. So what will i do? i dont want to lose this guy...
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reader, Basschick +, writes (20 November 2011):
You should let go. If he's been with her for 9 years I'd say there's no chance he's planning to leave. Besides you didn't say anything about whether he even knows you exist. I think it's best you move on.
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reader, natasia +, writes (19 November 2011):
To be honest I think it is unlikely he will choose you. I guess if he has been with her 9 years then he must be at least 25, and probably older than that - probably in his late 20s at least. So you are probably at least 10 years younger than him.I don't know what your story is ... who he is ... all hard to say. If he loves you then he is cheating on her. If he is cheating on her then maybe he doesn't want to be with her. Well, that is what people say. But actually he probably doesn't want to lose her, but also wants you. Have to say, I think probably you should let go of him. It might seem good now, but it won't be. Even if he chose you, he would feel so guilty about her that it would spoil your relationship.Find someone else.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (19 November 2011):
if he leaves his girlfriend of 9 years for you what's to prevent him from leaving you in 9 years for something new and younger?why do you want a guy who is willing to abandon a long term love?
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