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writes:Question, my wife and I have been married for almost 4 years now, we have not been getting along lately, we have had some tension. We recently moved out of state for a fresh start, I have been out of work and just started training for a new career. She has been working a lot and been resentful towards me for that, she has been staying out late and texting with an old boyfriend. I admit that I havent been my self lately and that I had been drinking more than usual, I guess I didnt know how to deal with my frustrations. last week I was at school and she called me very upset saying some guy had been contacting her on facebook concerning an ad he saw the night before on craigslist about a threesome with her and listed a photo of her in sexy lingerie, I was taken back by this and went on cl and did not find any posting, he said that he had emailed me and I aid that she needed it bad and what not, he got my email and tracked me down on facebook and then went to my wifes profile to contact her. I did not have any trace of the emails or craigslist posting, I had been drinking that night and dont remember doing any of this, she is convinced that I did, she wants me to move out and get a divorce, I dont know what to do, I havent slept or had much to eat in a week, I have tried reasoning and everything with her, she thinks that I got drunk and posted this because I was mad at her. I dont want this to end becase of this, I dont remember doing this and now I am questioning myself if i did this what the heck is wrong with me? I am scared that I might not be able to make this better, what should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2010): Sounds like a setup to me. Ask for the evidence.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionPrincess, let me clear the air by saying that I am recieving unemployment of$430 week, and that I do all the housework and cleaning and laundry and vacuuming. That has never been an issue. I have stopped drinking and realized that was not the way to go, we have had arguments in the past because we were both drinking, I am trying to do the right thing by starting a new career that will provide more stability, she says that she just wants to move on, I think she is just hurt and confused, I always have forgave her, dont know why she cant forgive me, I thought that what was marriage was about?
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reader, princessofGod43 +, writes (30 April 2010):
 Man this is bad...first off please stop drinking...as someone who has moved out of state with my husband...i want to tell you it's very hard...and when things start going bad...you want to reach to your past for comfort...but if drinking is more important to you...then walk away...but if your wife is more important to you please stop the drinking...this is your other woman to a woman...and you're in school it must be tough for her to be the sole bread winner right now...i hope school is not going to take long for you...because if it is you need to find a partime job and help out...otherwise you may find yourself wifeless...If you really want to fix this borrow money and take this woman out, fix her dinner at home...tell her you'll stop drinking, find a part time job, and help her with the housework and make sure at least the house is not messy when she gets off work...because if this old boyfriend ends up being her friend against you...it will get even worse...I hope you can feel me and do the work you need to do...stop even defending yourself against this ad her ex could have placed it to get rid of you...but if he did or didn't you still have much work to do to build her confidence in your ability to provide safety and security...which is what a woman needs...as a woman we don't mind being the support...but don't be a hinderence while we are providing that support to you...if you can get a part time job and help with house work and shopping please do it and leave her little notes of love...pack her lunch...make her bath water...and fartherly and finally please stop seeing your other woman...alcohol
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