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writes:wife not interested in being touched,held,hogs,kissing,sex asked her to talk to doctor and she throws a fit.moved out of bedroom about 6 years ago,said i made to much noise.everything i do is wrong,anything i get for her is wrongis it time to split...life is not fun wit her Reply to this Question
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reader, rivi +, writes (14 June 2010):
Well in reality you have already divorced: you are just living in the same house.
You'll be happier splitting and getting your own little place and meeting new women .
[Have you really gone thru your 20's without sex for that many years ? ]
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2010): She obviously doesnt love you any more as you said you havent slept in the same bedroom for 6 years, She probably doesnt have the guts to be the one to separate. You need to understand you need to be happy to so if i was you i would get out and get on with your life. I believe we all need human touch someone we connect with and can share our lifes with and if your wife is not prepared to do that then move on to someone who will. good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2010): I'm so sorry. That is very commendable of you to hang in there for as long as you have so don't listen to people who say you "should" have done this or that six years ago as if wives are expendable...marriage is a big deal and obviously you hung in there as your duty to your wife as a loyal husband through thick and thin, you have nothing to feel bad about.In any case, yes I do believe it is time for you to walk away. But first you should TALK with your wife. DON'T suggest her going to the doctor. She might percieve that as rather condescending, I did when I first read it. But TALK to her. Like two adults talk to each other, one on one, as equals, with respect. Let her know how you feel. Let her know that you are not happy. DO NOT suggest anything to her, such as going to the doctor and getting help. That is a bad way of approaching things and she is going to get mad. Simply talk to her with respect, on the same plane as her. Ask her how she feels about things. How she feels about what has been going on. Let her know how you feel. And let her know that you are considering walking away. I don't know if the conversation will change anything but at least you are letting her know what is up and what is about to happen. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2010): Thats your decision, not ours. But my advice would be yes, you definitely should? i can't believe you didn't divorce 6 years ago...
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