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male
age
41-50,
*sianhusband
writes:My wife and I are in our lower 30's and had a recent bad period where she said she was bored with our relationship and wanted to leave me. I made some changes and started spending more time with her and was able to turn things around. Even though she doesn't want to leave anymore and says she is faithful and loyal to me, she says she likes teasing and messing with other guys. What does this all mean?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (27 March 2010):
 It could be just a passing fad and she may get tired of it. You should be understanding as long as she does not go overboard. If she is happy , that is all that is to it.
At the end of the day , she feels happy and go home with you .
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reader, asianhusband +, writes (27 March 2010):
asianhusband is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the feedback. Yes, she is pretty and does get a lot of attention. She use to be conservative, but only have recently started to dress sexy and showing more skin, so I think that is where the attention from guys is coming from and then the flirting and teasing. I think I would be devastated if she left, so I am giving her some freedom to have her fun. She only gets a little carried away when we are in the clubs and sometimes dances with other guys. But I guess that is ok as long as I am the guy she goes home with.
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (25 March 2010):
Flirting is harmless as long as she knows your limits and boundaries. You cannot avoid her flirting as you cannot be by her side 24/7.
If she is working , there will be a lot of males who would flirt with her and give her close attentions if she is the pretty kind.
If she is the flirty kind , she will invite more flirts. It can be a real headache if you are her husband and this may cause you to argue and fight often.
Otherwise , you will need to close one eye to her activities which she enjoys.
If she flirts, then you can also flirt with other women.See how she will respond to your actions. Tell her to be fair.
You will have to pay more attentions to her, tease her flirt with her and woo her.If she can get what she wants in your marriage, she will not seek it outside .
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reader, bitterblue  +, writes (25 March 2010):
 Flirting is not necessarily a danger to the main relationship as some don't mean to take it further BUT at the same time she is bored of your relationship, and that changes the situation and shows she is not as committed/interested as you are; this means you should be cautious about the way you handle a delicate time in your marriage as she recently wanted to leave you - are you sure those underlying issues were resolved since you made 'some changes'? - this is vital. You give little details but if you don't have reasons to distrust her, just be cautious, communicate A LOT; focus on how the marriage is progressing while you address the issues that you have and bring them to the surface. Best of luck.
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